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[tytaniaherself]

The church gig that has been making me nuts since December is officially done. I threw away the music, deleted the e-mails, and I'll likely clean out some more files in my computer. I still have a one Sunday per month church gig, but that's been less stress thus far and hopefully will stay that way. I guess we'll see

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[houndentenor]

Because church is and always has been a toxic environment. The same backstabbing and underhanded shenanigans that go on in the worst of the business world are done with smiles and holier-than-though platitudes but it's actually the worst kind of politics

[tytaniaherself]

I'm thinking that next year I'm going to go back to subbing, assuming all goes well. I like having the flexibility to pick and choose when I'll be singing and to not have to deal with church politics or situations like the one I was just in or the one you're in now.

This is the first time I've experienced this kind of insanity at a church gig. There were so many ways they could have avoided all the drama, and it amazes me that at every turn they opted for whatever would cause the most misery.

On the way out, they asked the organist if she would be willing to sub for them until the hotshot person they just hired is available. Her response was "No, not under the present circumstances."

[houndentenor]

I did that the last few years I was in NYC. It was great. Of course I'm a tenor so sub gigs were constant. It's no problem to say no when you don't want to work that weekend, but finding a tenor sub had gotten very difficult. Also, even in the most toxic of environments, they are nice to the sub. And if not, you just don't go back.

Church is full of drama queens. Of course they went for the maximum drama at every turn. They love it. Be glad you are gone.

But asking the person they just showed the door the stay a little longer is impressive. Imagine the nerve that must take. Or the stupidity. Either way it's exceptional, just not in a good way.

[tytaniaherself]

I'd say that the whole thing was exceptionally crazy, to the point where I began to think I was dealing with clinical psychopaths. People who have that illness have a hard time understanding other people as distinct beings separate from themselves and think that other people will think and feel the same things as they do. In their batshit world, they never lied to anyone and everything was just fine and we're all perfectly happy with the way we were treated, so why wouldn't the organist be willing to stick around?

I've seen drama and I've dealt with people who adored drama, just never anything quite so destructive as these people. I'd say they are actual evil, and that is damn scary.

[houndentenor]

I know what you are talking about: people who do things that are truly awful and then show up and act like nothing happened. And everyone else is too dumbfounded that they even had the nerve to show up to say or do anything. And so it continues. I actually have a half sister like this and sadly one of her daughters pulls the exact same crap. I think that she believes that because everyone avoids talking about it that we've forgotten about it. I haven't and neither has my other sister. We're just not rude enough to make a scene and just avoid her as much as possible. And yes such people are shocked that anyone would be upset with their actions. Their world is all about them and no one else should have any ideas or thoughts or feelings that don't serve them. It's a sociopathic condition. Add religion to that and it's truly insufferable. (And explains most of what's wrong with modern politics on the right.) Be glad you're gone.