"I kissed a girl and I liked it"
So I definitely don’t keep up with this thing like most people do. But I also work entirely too much, to the point of ignoring any normal social upkeep. Life for me has been a whirlwind of good and bad, only the bad has been REALLY bad and the good has been REALLY good. Anyway, I heard a song on the radio tonight and it bothered me. Some song where the lyrics are “I kissed a girl, and I liked it.” While I have no immediate qualms with the subject matter, women kissing women, I do find the social norm of women kissing other women for nothing more that attention very frustrating. Sexuality to me is a matter of being honest with yourself and the partner or partners you choose in life. The song bothers me in the sense that it’s okay for women to use a false form of sexuality to get attention from men. I work in a bar where the concept of sexuality is MUCH more relaxed then just about anywhere else in Richmond, but I find myself mildly irritated when people try to “show off” and sort of sexual play or activities. I understand people will constantly find the need for attention grabbing, but I don’t like it when sexuality is used as their vehicle. I don’t like the American view on sex and sexuality. Entirely too repressed for my tastes, but this doesn’t mean I think we should all run around naked and fucking who ever. I simply stress the concept of tolerance, what you find comfortable for yourself is not what some one else might find as their vehicle of choice. I work at Fallout, I see naked people spanking each other, beating each other, you name I’ve seen it, but I can tell you right now I don’t ever partake in any of those activities out in the open like a good percentage of people at Fallout do. This isn’t to say I look down on the practices by any means, in fact being part of a place that allows such freedom is something to be quite proud of. I’m just stating the fact that I choose not to participate out of the fact that that’s just simply not my thing. I’m by no means prude, I’ll be the first to tell you I’m a total whore, but only to one person at a time in my own private environment and only with someone I love.
I just don’t like the social taboos of what is and is not okay. Being gay is taboo enough where some generic singer can come up with a half catching song and it makes her a couple million cause it’s a touchy subject but safe enough cause she just “kissed” a girl. Where’s the song where she talks about her meaningful relationship with another women, like we’ve all had regardless of gender?
Another thing I can’t stand is the women who think it’s okay, while in a heterosexual relationship, to fool around with another women. Just because you can’t pro-create with who ever you’re fucking doesn’t mean it isn’t cheating. When you commit, you commit to that person not their gender.