cynical realizations

[twofourthree]

I've realized some things lately... many that are cynical. So I offer a disclaimer that you might be offended or something like that, I'm sorry if you are - I want your comments if you are or if you aren't or whatever. Just a glimpse inside my head.

Comments

[emmy_roo]

It's funny, but I often have a similar observation of this campus. I see how many are hurting and need around us every day, but a lot of the time I feel like my fellow students are so focused on social justice issues or the hurricane or the Peace Corps that they forget to reach out to the people around them who need their help.

Oh, and this definitely isn't a criticism of you - it's just a prevailing attitude that strikes me. Actually, I think it's a problem with a lot of Christian communities. They're so busy taking care of those outside that they forget to minister and care for the other believers in their midst, who are often trampled in the crowd.

[twofourthree]

This is true - and a good point. I think it depends on the church community you are at. Some have a focus that is too inward, some too outward.

Thanks for shedding some light.

[emmy_roo]

I haven't gone to a Bible study since I was 12 without starting to cry in the middle. Only once has anyone ever noticed. They'll all too busy worshipping God to care that someone else might not be transported to the same place they are.

Not trying to be really cynical, but I've been to nearly every Bible study on this campus at least once, and I have yet to have anyone notice that anything's wrong. I'm close to giving up.

[photosbyjess]

I am right with you on the drinking thing tracy. i feel like i'm caught in this loop. i say i don't care if people drink, and on one level i don't, but in the same sense it bothers the heck out of me. I avoid parties because I don't feel comfortable, I go because I don't want people to think I'm completely anti-social. I still care about people I know who drink, but some I wish wouldn't more than others.. I find that I hold people who mean more to me to higher standards and, maybe selfishly, wish they wouldn't drink more than just causal friends who I only see once and a while.. I honestly don't know how I feel about all of this in any sort of definite way, I just have this endless run around in my head. ok, for example, frank and i have been dating for 2 months now, and he hasn't drank at all since we've been together. he use to drink, every once anda while before. now he didn't like quite when we got together, it just 'happens', i suppose, that he hasn't drank since april i believe. well, i think, what happens if he decides to go

[veggygrl33]

Well, in YOUR case, Jess, you have every right to judge. Who are you to judge? His girlfriend. I know that sounds weird, but there's no reason in a relationship to hold back from being honest about what bothers you because you don't want to "judge". You can't force him to do what you want, but be open about it. If he goes to a party, tell him you don't like it. He may not do it, for your sake, if you don't AVOID being honest cause you don't want to look like a bitch or whatever. You have every right to make your feelings known, and he has every right to respond to that as he sees fit, but at least do each other the decency of allowing each other to use that right.

[photosbyjess]

oh.. yeah.. i will.. maybe it all didn't come out right.. that situation has not come up at all.. not even a little bit, it was just something my brain cooked up.. i mean if it comes up, i'll say something, but, i definitely appreciate the first part of your comment the most, cause, well, i didn't really think about it that way. i definitely should tell him what bothers me.. wow, maybe i should read through things before i post them.. ha, then it wouldnt be a lj, would it!