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[twistedan9el]

its time for possible another contraversal(sp) topic.. although im not sure how many people will be against what im talking about but im sure there are the select guilty few. Anyways. heres the story (or captions of what you need to know) that made me want to write this. I have a friend (yes a friend this is not slang for me) recently ran into some old friends who found out he was a homosexual. They taunted him threw him around called him "faggot" and a desgrace. During high school he hid his homosexuality because even though we're in a time where its excepted in reality for men its still looked down upon. Espically when they were on the football team, basketball team, and track team. How can such a masculine guy like.. other guys? it doesnt make sense right? but it does, and it happens, and its there. these people men and women dont wake up and say "i want to fool around with a member of the same sex" i fully believe its part of who they are. But that isnt why im writing this to explain how i believe homosexuality is a natural thing. "thats so gay" or "stop acting gay" or "yadda yadda GAY" this is the year 2005, we arent back in the age where homosexuality barely accured and if it did no one EVER knew about it. People say these things not knowing that someone who really is gay might here it. I know its now not only used as a word for homosexuals but for a slang term meaning bad or disstastefull, but what are people or even children growing up with this slang and with homosexuality at the same time going to think... when you say something is "gay" like "thats so gay" and you say it in a negative way then that only prompts younger people or naive older people to think that homosexuality is a negative thing, which its not. If people love each other then why not give them that oppurtunity. Why do we have to constantely put down things we may not fully understand or that we arent sure how we feel about it. As you say things like "that looks gay" you may not think about the people around you. that stranger to your left could be gay, that store clerk you're buying the "gay" shirt from might be gay.. or maybe even your friend who is too scared to come out is gay.. and by putting them down in such a negative way dont you think it makes it harder for them to be who they really are. I have a lot of gay friends, one of my best friends who i talked about earlier is gay. but i dont see him as gay i see him as my best friend who let me cry for 6 hours when my mom threw me out.. who helped me with a hangover.. who gives me advice on shoes and shooting tips.. i think of my best friend.. because i respect him enough as a person and a human being with feelings to understand that he is more then just "gay"

thank you and goodnight
<3Lauren