break it down.
I talked to her last night. I needed to know my credit card log in name and password, she always did that stuff. I called her but didn't hear back for hours. When we did talk she was lacking affect like no ones business.(I know I know, total social worker talk- but it sbests describes it I swear) Her tone was flat and all her responses negative. She sounded like she has completely given up hope on life and love.
Everything I said made her mad. I respected all her boundaries, not wanting to talk, not answering questions, etc. and still- I was the bad guy.
When did it happen that even talking to me makes her feel yucky, angry at the entire world and negative?
How do I change something like that? I wrote a card out to her yesterday but now I am afraid to send it. Will she just be angry at the communication and stomp her feet, growl like a dinosaur and throw it away?
Am I the enemy?
How did we get here?
Everything I said made her mad. I respected all her boundaries, not wanting to talk, not answering questions, etc. and still- I was the bad guy.
When did it happen that even talking to me makes her feel yucky, angry at the entire world and negative?
How do I change something like that? I wrote a card out to her yesterday but now I am afraid to send it. Will she just be angry at the communication and stomp her feet, growl like a dinosaur and throw it away?
Am I the enemy?
How did we get here?