Now I remember...
I've had my AIM buddy list as a friends-only deal for... a very long time. I don't remember why I started doing that, but I put it back onto "anyone can talk to me" tonight after a good seven or eight months. I immediately get a message from a friend of mine I keep forgetting to add to my list, so it wasn't a complete waste.
However, an hour or so later, I got another message, this one from someone I've never heard of. I accept the message and, after some confusion, we figure out that, yes, we do know each other. He's the ex of a friend of mine. My friend cut ties with him after the break-up, for reasons that are her own. I have my theories on it, but it is not my place. Her life, not my deal. She doesn't tell me, so it's not my business. But she's almost all he wanted to talk about. Mind, they broke up about a year ago (after five years), but he took it pretty hard.
I don't know anything about relationships. I think it's okay to still be hurt on occasion after about a year, especially when it was such a long relationship (and I think it was, for both of them, their first relationship). Heck, I had a huge, violent falling out with the person who'd been pretty much my only friend for all of middle school six years ago (I can't believe it's been that long) and sometimes I still wonder how she's doing and miss our friendship.
Still, it really bothered me that he kept trying to get me to talk about her. It's not my business whether or not she talks to you. I'm sorry, I know your feelings were hurt, but it's not my problem. I told you at least five times over the course of an hour that I did not know because she did not talk about it and that it's none of my business, anyway. Arg. Stop trying to make a martyr out of yourself.
The way he kept bringing her up, I suspect he wanted me to tell her we had a conversation. I'm not going to, of course. She doesn't need to hear about it. I certainly doubt she wants to hear about it.
As a slight aside, I'm rather sick of people assuming I have a boyfriend. Don't have, don't want.
Grah. How do I keep getting into these things?
However, an hour or so later, I got another message, this one from someone I've never heard of. I accept the message and, after some confusion, we figure out that, yes, we do know each other. He's the ex of a friend of mine. My friend cut ties with him after the break-up, for reasons that are her own. I have my theories on it, but it is not my place. Her life, not my deal. She doesn't tell me, so it's not my business. But she's almost all he wanted to talk about. Mind, they broke up about a year ago (after five years), but he took it pretty hard.
I don't know anything about relationships. I think it's okay to still be hurt on occasion after about a year, especially when it was such a long relationship (and I think it was, for both of them, their first relationship). Heck, I had a huge, violent falling out with the person who'd been pretty much my only friend for all of middle school six years ago (I can't believe it's been that long) and sometimes I still wonder how she's doing and miss our friendship.
Still, it really bothered me that he kept trying to get me to talk about her. It's not my business whether or not she talks to you. I'm sorry, I know your feelings were hurt, but it's not my problem. I told you at least five times over the course of an hour that I did not know because she did not talk about it and that it's none of my business, anyway. Arg. Stop trying to make a martyr out of yourself.
The way he kept bringing her up, I suspect he wanted me to tell her we had a conversation. I'm not going to, of course. She doesn't need to hear about it. I certainly doubt she wants to hear about it.
As a slight aside, I'm rather sick of people assuming I have a boyfriend. Don't have, don't want.
Grah. How do I keep getting into these things?