Self-improvement, not self-destruction
I've had a working list of things-to-fix about myself that I've been trying to get to work on for awhile. So far I've at least put a few into motion ...
1. Make more eye contact:
This one has been a life-long issue with me, and one I've tried a few times in the past but usually end up resorting to old methods. I'm a firm believer that the eyes are the window to the soul and in that regard, I like to keep that info to myself. But on the other hand, it's rude to not meet someone in the eye, if they're willing to make the effort for me. The surprising thing I've noticed? A large portion of people do not engage in eye contact these days, so really I'm not that abnormal anymore.
2. Become more physical and less skirmish around it:
I have my little three-foot bubble of existance in which I don't like people to invade it without invitation. Nothing irks me more than if, say, I'm at my computer at work and someone walks up right behind me ... it gets on my nerves horribly. So my first attempt to get a bit more comfortable with these things is to start hugging people that I've known for long periods of time and/or with whom I feel close. This isn't to say I don't hug them now, but I'll aim to be a bit more pro-active, and let loose on my current standards of not exceeding the three-second rule. At the same time I don't want to hug-rape someone, so this will probably take some time in figuring out when it's appropriate and when it isn't.
Other things I want to tackle are being more vocal and less timid about telling people what I want. Less fear of rejection and all that jazz. I'm starting to think if I ever want to get laid again in my life I'm going to have to take the initiative myself because boys are stupid and will never get the job done. :P
1. Make more eye contact:
This one has been a life-long issue with me, and one I've tried a few times in the past but usually end up resorting to old methods. I'm a firm believer that the eyes are the window to the soul and in that regard, I like to keep that info to myself. But on the other hand, it's rude to not meet someone in the eye, if they're willing to make the effort for me. The surprising thing I've noticed? A large portion of people do not engage in eye contact these days, so really I'm not that abnormal anymore.
2. Become more physical and less skirmish around it:
I have my little three-foot bubble of existance in which I don't like people to invade it without invitation. Nothing irks me more than if, say, I'm at my computer at work and someone walks up right behind me ... it gets on my nerves horribly. So my first attempt to get a bit more comfortable with these things is to start hugging people that I've known for long periods of time and/or with whom I feel close. This isn't to say I don't hug them now, but I'll aim to be a bit more pro-active, and let loose on my current standards of not exceeding the three-second rule. At the same time I don't want to hug-rape someone, so this will probably take some time in figuring out when it's appropriate and when it isn't.
Other things I want to tackle are being more vocal and less timid about telling people what I want. Less fear of rejection and all that jazz. I'm starting to think if I ever want to get laid again in my life I'm going to have to take the initiative myself because boys are stupid and will never get the job done. :P