That which doesn't kill me, makes me stronger...
Disrespectful Behavior: "Don't overlook unprofessional behavior, such as emails that aren't returned or disregard for stop and start times for the interview without apology," or inappropriate IM's that are recorded for her benefit as well. *sigh*
Visual Cues: "If your boss scans you from head to waist versus waist to head as they extend their hand in greeting you, they are intuitively sending a message that you are smaller than they are," Though subtle, it's the nonverbal equivalent of a belittling comment. "This is not a good sign that your talents are going to flourish in this environment." I NOW belive this, 100%... as I have experienced it.
Defensive Body Language: "An insecure boss will find you threatening if you are good at your job and will use the power of the position to make your life miserable," I should have been watching for the constant shifting, avoiding eye contact or rifling through papers as you talk, it was there.
Bad Attitude: "Ask for company turnover [data] and turnover [data] for that individual manager," (This is extremely HIGH at Auctiva). Average length of employement 3 months.
Excessive Nervousness: Don't ignore extreme behavior, of any kind as they are telegraphed to everyone in the department."
Distrust of Others: A toxic boss "openly displays a lack of trust in people, especially for those on the team in which he or she is supposed to lead, "If they are consistantly blaming others in the organization, especially those on his or her team, the leader lacks trust in their team."
Fear Used as a Motivator: When managers disrespect and distrust others' motivations, they resort to extrinsic means with which to motivate, such as threats, public humiliation and comments about layoffs. My old "boss" actually laughed at my discomfort about expressing my concern with a project's theme in a meeting, called me "stupid" for feeling that way, and when I expressed my concerns, sweapt them under the table as "lame" and told me "we are doing the ad campaing anyway so get on board.".
Word Choice: "If they begin every sentence with a negative message and then try to diffuse it somewhat, it is likely that negativity prevails in their life and carries over into work."
Extreme Friendliness - Rather the same as an adult offering candy to a child in methodology. This one always turns me off... I call it ick factor.
Self-Absorption: "If his ideas seem to be more important than finding out about your ideas, or if you provide an answer and the interviewer tells you you're wrong or interrupts with his own answer to the question, it may be an indication that he will be difficult to work with,". this one is tricky, as this is something that can be easily done with friends, but when carried into the workplace becomes "wrong"... have to work on this one.
These are just some things I have been researcing these past two days. (I should say I was curious about my "working relationship" feelings... and descided to investigate them). Also working on my resume, a new website with samples (which when it is ready and up I will post here). I have lost 10 lbs in 3 days (though I don't recommend the "highstress" diet). I am currently on an anti-anxiety med twice a day, or I think I may just have a heart-attack. Smoke no more than 1 cigarrett a day as the "joy" of it has gone out.... but I have to get the nauseau under controll (I have been throwing up first thing in the morning, and last thing at night for two days now.) I have to do something about the "pacing" thing... (I am pacing like a tigress in a cage), so more exercise is in order. I am currently living on Excedrine Migraine meds... lots of water and keeping down what foods I can.
Sleeping hard (due to the meds) so that is good, otherwise I wouldn't be sleeping. I know I am in an okay position as I have a roof over my head. But I am worried about paying all my bills which still have to be payed (I do NOT get any assistance from my parents, haven't since I became an adult. Even though I rent from them, I am still expected to make rent, no matter what the cercumstances, as if I were "in the real world" as my mother puts it.
The pisser-side of this is having to listen to the "boy you are sure a fuck-up" speaches... and the "you never listen speaches"... thank goodness, my sister (who gets them too evidently, has a reality check talk for me every once in a while. AND has the good graces to point out, "they aren't perfect either... remember when..." when I need it.
The hoodoo dahl gets burned and buried tomorrow (intended to do three things, one: make the nausea go away, two: make the negative energy surrounding me go away, three: private and therefor no written proof of.)
THAT WHICH DOESN'T KILL ME, MAKES ME STRONGER...
Visual Cues: "If your boss scans you from head to waist versus waist to head as they extend their hand in greeting you, they are intuitively sending a message that you are smaller than they are," Though subtle, it's the nonverbal equivalent of a belittling comment. "This is not a good sign that your talents are going to flourish in this environment." I NOW belive this, 100%... as I have experienced it.
Defensive Body Language: "An insecure boss will find you threatening if you are good at your job and will use the power of the position to make your life miserable," I should have been watching for the constant shifting, avoiding eye contact or rifling through papers as you talk, it was there.
Bad Attitude: "Ask for company turnover [data] and turnover [data] for that individual manager," (This is extremely HIGH at Auctiva). Average length of employement 3 months.
Excessive Nervousness: Don't ignore extreme behavior, of any kind as they are telegraphed to everyone in the department."
Distrust of Others: A toxic boss "openly displays a lack of trust in people, especially for those on the team in which he or she is supposed to lead, "If they are consistantly blaming others in the organization, especially those on his or her team, the leader lacks trust in their team."
Fear Used as a Motivator: When managers disrespect and distrust others' motivations, they resort to extrinsic means with which to motivate, such as threats, public humiliation and comments about layoffs. My old "boss" actually laughed at my discomfort about expressing my concern with a project's theme in a meeting, called me "stupid" for feeling that way, and when I expressed my concerns, sweapt them under the table as "lame" and told me "we are doing the ad campaing anyway so get on board.".
Word Choice: "If they begin every sentence with a negative message and then try to diffuse it somewhat, it is likely that negativity prevails in their life and carries over into work."
Extreme Friendliness - Rather the same as an adult offering candy to a child in methodology. This one always turns me off... I call it ick factor.
Self-Absorption: "If his ideas seem to be more important than finding out about your ideas, or if you provide an answer and the interviewer tells you you're wrong or interrupts with his own answer to the question, it may be an indication that he will be difficult to work with,". this one is tricky, as this is something that can be easily done with friends, but when carried into the workplace becomes "wrong"... have to work on this one.
These are just some things I have been researcing these past two days. (I should say I was curious about my "working relationship" feelings... and descided to investigate them). Also working on my resume, a new website with samples (which when it is ready and up I will post here). I have lost 10 lbs in 3 days (though I don't recommend the "highstress" diet). I am currently on an anti-anxiety med twice a day, or I think I may just have a heart-attack. Smoke no more than 1 cigarrett a day as the "joy" of it has gone out.... but I have to get the nauseau under controll (I have been throwing up first thing in the morning, and last thing at night for two days now.) I have to do something about the "pacing" thing... (I am pacing like a tigress in a cage), so more exercise is in order. I am currently living on Excedrine Migraine meds... lots of water and keeping down what foods I can.
Sleeping hard (due to the meds) so that is good, otherwise I wouldn't be sleeping. I know I am in an okay position as I have a roof over my head. But I am worried about paying all my bills which still have to be payed (I do NOT get any assistance from my parents, haven't since I became an adult. Even though I rent from them, I am still expected to make rent, no matter what the cercumstances, as if I were "in the real world" as my mother puts it.
The pisser-side of this is having to listen to the "boy you are sure a fuck-up" speaches... and the "you never listen speaches"... thank goodness, my sister (who gets them too evidently, has a reality check talk for me every once in a while. AND has the good graces to point out, "they aren't perfect either... remember when..." when I need it.
The hoodoo dahl gets burned and buried tomorrow (intended to do three things, one: make the nausea go away, two: make the negative energy surrounding me go away, three: private and therefor no written proof of.)
THAT WHICH DOESN'T KILL ME, MAKES ME STRONGER...