You know who you are...
"Being Twenty-Something"
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." You may find
yourself straying from the crowd more than any other
time in your life. You start realizing that there are
a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know
and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will
be in a year or two, but then get scared because you
barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that some people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were
so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met and the people you have lost touch with
are some of the most important ones. What you do not
realize is that some of the ones you have given up on
are realizing that too and that most of them are not
really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you are.
You look at your job. It may not even be close to what
you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are
looking for one and realizing that you are going to
have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of
socializing with the same people on a constant basis.
But you start to realize that while some of them are
great friends, others weren't so special after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you
want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten
stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging a bit more than usual because
suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries
in your life and add things to your list of what is
acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry
with the greatest force of your life. Sometimes you
feel great and invincible, and other times you feel
alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the
enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear
life, but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you.
Or maybe you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet
anyone decent enough to get to know better.
You love someone but maybe love someone else too and
cannot figure out why you are doing this because you
are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look
cheap, and getting wasted and acting like an idiot
starts to look pathetic. But yet, they both still
seem to happen.
Maybe it seems like almost everyone you know is
getting married, and maybe you really love someone
too, but you just aren't sure if you're ready to
commit for the rest of your life yet.
You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over, and talk with your friends about the same
topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and
making a life for yourself. While winning the race
would be great, right now you'd just like to be a
contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this
relates to it. We are in our best of times and our
worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure
this whole thing out.
So, heres my question. If you do relate to the above, what exactly are you going to do about it?
You can either sit and pity yourself for the next five years, while in the meantime, you put every little opportunity on hold for a 'better time' when you're more 'experienced with life' or you can swallow those tears, move on and make the most out of that brilliant mind. The choice is yours.
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." You may find
yourself straying from the crowd more than any other
time in your life. You start realizing that there are
a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know
and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will
be in a year or two, but then get scared because you
barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that some people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were
so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met and the people you have lost touch with
are some of the most important ones. What you do not
realize is that some of the ones you have given up on
are realizing that too and that most of them are not
really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you are.
You look at your job. It may not even be close to what
you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are
looking for one and realizing that you are going to
have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of
socializing with the same people on a constant basis.
But you start to realize that while some of them are
great friends, others weren't so special after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you
want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten
stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging a bit more than usual because
suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries
in your life and add things to your list of what is
acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry
with the greatest force of your life. Sometimes you
feel great and invincible, and other times you feel
alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the
enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear
life, but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you.
Or maybe you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet
anyone decent enough to get to know better.
You love someone but maybe love someone else too and
cannot figure out why you are doing this because you
are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look
cheap, and getting wasted and acting like an idiot
starts to look pathetic. But yet, they both still
seem to happen.
Maybe it seems like almost everyone you know is
getting married, and maybe you really love someone
too, but you just aren't sure if you're ready to
commit for the rest of your life yet.
You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over, and talk with your friends about the same
topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and
making a life for yourself. While winning the race
would be great, right now you'd just like to be a
contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this
relates to it. We are in our best of times and our
worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure
this whole thing out.
So, heres my question. If you do relate to the above, what exactly are you going to do about it?
You can either sit and pity yourself for the next five years, while in the meantime, you put every little opportunity on hold for a 'better time' when you're more 'experienced with life' or you can swallow those tears, move on and make the most out of that brilliant mind. The choice is yours.