HELP
I know I haven't posted in a while, and I rarely comment.. but I need some guidance!..
Justin will be 11 in 2 weeks. He just started 5th grade, new school, Intermediate school (only has 5th and 6th)
but it's a new world.. changing classes, lockers, rides the bus, tons of new kids etc..
First off He has ADHD and he is on Strattara for that-it seems to help with the "focus issues" but he is so high strung period.. Wednesday night he had a mini melt down, because he, while doing his homework, was stressing because he had so much to do.. he was doing math pages 25-31. Now I thought this was way too much work, so I read his planner.. it said P10, 24-31... he needed to do page 10 problems 24-31.. well he had already worked up 15 problems from page 24.. he crumpled up the paper and started to cry.. he said he didn't understand what the teacher told him. I calmed him and he got the correct work done.
Last night.... he says that all the math problems he did were wrong.. I don't know how?.. he had a worksheet that he did also and it was the same types of problems.. anyway.. ?? last night he had to write a paragraph for Language Arts about what he has in common with his classmates (a continuation of what they did the day before-they shared their interests) well he put down computers...No one else did..so he was upset last night because he didn't know what to write... after some struggling we (I) worked out something for him to write.. But he was so worked up that he couldn't calm down to focus on something to write.. He was crying and so upset because he says "he didnt know school was starting so soon, and that it was so hard and no one told him" blah blah blah.. which is so NOT true, but he has it in his mind that he didn't know.. ??? What am I supposed to do with that?
I talked with Julie and got some reassurance and thoughts on ways to do things going forward ( I hate that term "going forward" blame that on work haha) So we talked right before he went to bed and came up with a few things to make the homework/school issue a bit better.
Then this morning.. I asked him where his notes were for math (he needed to study for a quiz today) I don't know.. she didnt give us any...??? WHAT? He said it was on Multiplication.. so I had a multiplication table of Trey's that I'd been hanging on to for some reason.. I gave it to him.. and told him to take it with him to study and we would be watching Multiplication Rock this weekend ( I love that video.. I had the record.. a record! loved it)
So... anyway.. Teacher calls me at 745a this morning and said that Justin was very upset because he realized that he left his house key at home.. NOW knowing Justin like I do.. he was crying and just not coping well.. The teacher
brought him into the lounge (away from the kids) and called me.. I explained that I work from home and i'm here all day but I can't hear the door from my office.. so that's why he has a key.. I told her that I would just leave the door unlocked. She said that he was doing much better then.
1.. it was just a key
2.. I work from home.. it's not like he would have to stand outside all night.
3.. WHY does he get so up set..
I don't know whether to take him to our family DR.. or a counselor, or what..
Does his medication heighten his "non-coping" abilities?
I can't let him continue like this.. He needs help and i'm not sure exactly what to do.
I can't baby him forever.. he's almost 11yrs old.
He's so afraid to try anything new.. is it because he doesn't want to fail.. does it relate to
sibling rivalry? Trey always seems so at ease with everything.. Does Justin not want to try something new
because he won't stand up to Trey's standards? Is it because his asshole of a father is not present in his life.
Dale left/was told to leave, when Justin was 6 (just turned 6.. it was his birthday) and Justin seems to still
act like a 6yr old. Does it stem from that..
I need a push.. tell me which direction to go with this.. please!
Justin will be 11 in 2 weeks. He just started 5th grade, new school, Intermediate school (only has 5th and 6th)
but it's a new world.. changing classes, lockers, rides the bus, tons of new kids etc..
First off He has ADHD and he is on Strattara for that-it seems to help with the "focus issues" but he is so high strung period.. Wednesday night he had a mini melt down, because he, while doing his homework, was stressing because he had so much to do.. he was doing math pages 25-31. Now I thought this was way too much work, so I read his planner.. it said P10, 24-31... he needed to do page 10 problems 24-31.. well he had already worked up 15 problems from page 24.. he crumpled up the paper and started to cry.. he said he didn't understand what the teacher told him. I calmed him and he got the correct work done.
Last night.... he says that all the math problems he did were wrong.. I don't know how?.. he had a worksheet that he did also and it was the same types of problems.. anyway.. ?? last night he had to write a paragraph for Language Arts about what he has in common with his classmates (a continuation of what they did the day before-they shared their interests) well he put down computers...No one else did..so he was upset last night because he didn't know what to write... after some struggling we (I) worked out something for him to write.. But he was so worked up that he couldn't calm down to focus on something to write.. He was crying and so upset because he says "he didnt know school was starting so soon, and that it was so hard and no one told him" blah blah blah.. which is so NOT true, but he has it in his mind that he didn't know.. ??? What am I supposed to do with that?
I talked with Julie and got some reassurance and thoughts on ways to do things going forward ( I hate that term "going forward" blame that on work haha) So we talked right before he went to bed and came up with a few things to make the homework/school issue a bit better.
Then this morning.. I asked him where his notes were for math (he needed to study for a quiz today) I don't know.. she didnt give us any...??? WHAT? He said it was on Multiplication.. so I had a multiplication table of Trey's that I'd been hanging on to for some reason.. I gave it to him.. and told him to take it with him to study and we would be watching Multiplication Rock this weekend ( I love that video.. I had the record.. a record! loved it)
So... anyway.. Teacher calls me at 745a this morning and said that Justin was very upset because he realized that he left his house key at home.. NOW knowing Justin like I do.. he was crying and just not coping well.. The teacher
brought him into the lounge (away from the kids) and called me.. I explained that I work from home and i'm here all day but I can't hear the door from my office.. so that's why he has a key.. I told her that I would just leave the door unlocked. She said that he was doing much better then.
1.. it was just a key
2.. I work from home.. it's not like he would have to stand outside all night.
3.. WHY does he get so up set..
I don't know whether to take him to our family DR.. or a counselor, or what..
Does his medication heighten his "non-coping" abilities?
I can't let him continue like this.. He needs help and i'm not sure exactly what to do.
I can't baby him forever.. he's almost 11yrs old.
He's so afraid to try anything new.. is it because he doesn't want to fail.. does it relate to
sibling rivalry? Trey always seems so at ease with everything.. Does Justin not want to try something new
because he won't stand up to Trey's standards? Is it because his asshole of a father is not present in his life.
Dale left/was told to leave, when Justin was 6 (just turned 6.. it was his birthday) and Justin seems to still
act like a 6yr old. Does it stem from that..
I need a push.. tell me which direction to go with this.. please!