let's get physical. big scary homo revelations.
1. just because you're a queer person at a queer festival [this accounts for almost everyone; i saw one guy perform and he said "any allies in the house?" and no one responded] does not make you super cool, super friendly, or super conversive. i was a bit disappointed to realize that many people came with friends, and many people were only interested in meeting strangers with an objectifying sexual intent.
2. meeting people via couchsurfing.org means meeting cool people that want to be your friend. maybe i should organize a queer couchsurfer's festival.
3. i no longer am interested in hook up situations. right now. i've realized that me being turned on and staying turned on is entirely dependent on how emotionally attracted i am to the sex partner. and if i am emotionally attracted, i am prone to force an emotional connection where there may not be one.
4. sex with trannies is hot, real, and possible. peeing in someone's mouth in not hot, real, and possible.
5. john cameron mitchell is the chillest super star that i have ever talked to. he's also the only super star that i ever talked to...but we had a nice discussion about the reclamation of the word 'bitch', the absence of gay males in radical spaces, the sexual nature of predominately gay male spaces, tokenization of people of color [in his movie], people's willingness to become offended, "shortbus" as adult sex education...
6. queer culture is femme-phobic. i am femme-phobic. i do not like it; but i think i feel threatened by femmes. i am going to work on changing this attitude. androg is so fucking cool that femininity isn't. people who are female-bodied and strongly female-identified are not encouraged to examine their gender. femininity is largely associated with material consumption.
7. i want a few really good friends. i have a few really good friends. i am not very interested in being well connected.
being alone for much of homo a gogo was really challenging and i had a lot of confrontations with my self about my assumptions and assumptions that 'we' make. but it was good. and i am glad to be home.
2. meeting people via couchsurfing.org means meeting cool people that want to be your friend. maybe i should organize a queer couchsurfer's festival.
3. i no longer am interested in hook up situations. right now. i've realized that me being turned on and staying turned on is entirely dependent on how emotionally attracted i am to the sex partner. and if i am emotionally attracted, i am prone to force an emotional connection where there may not be one.
4. sex with trannies is hot, real, and possible. peeing in someone's mouth in not hot, real, and possible.
5. john cameron mitchell is the chillest super star that i have ever talked to. he's also the only super star that i ever talked to...but we had a nice discussion about the reclamation of the word 'bitch', the absence of gay males in radical spaces, the sexual nature of predominately gay male spaces, tokenization of people of color [in his movie], people's willingness to become offended, "shortbus" as adult sex education...
6. queer culture is femme-phobic. i am femme-phobic. i do not like it; but i think i feel threatened by femmes. i am going to work on changing this attitude. androg is so fucking cool that femininity isn't. people who are female-bodied and strongly female-identified are not encouraged to examine their gender. femininity is largely associated with material consumption.
7. i want a few really good friends. i have a few really good friends. i am not very interested in being well connected.
being alone for much of homo a gogo was really challenging and i had a lot of confrontations with my self about my assumptions and assumptions that 'we' make. but it was good. and i am glad to be home.