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Valentine's Day is in the air... There is red and pink stuff all over the stores, chocolates and flowers everywhere. I've seen quite a few florist delivery vans making their rounds today, and there were a lot of men buying flowers for their wives/girlfriends at the grocery store this afternoon... I think it's funny how people go overboard on valentine's day. I don't think it's a bad thing, heck I love fresh flowers and sweet gifts that show you care. I just think it should be done on more than one day of the year... it shouldn't have to be a holiday I guess is what I mean. Anyway...
Last night I went to another one of the college ministry services on the series "Love, Sex, Marriage...and everything in between." A guy talked about Ephesians 5:22-33 and the things a girl should look for in a guy and/or the things God calls a guy to be for a woman. It was all biblically based, and I found it very interesting... all things I want for myself. Here is the list he talked about:
"1. He must lead in love (verse 25-"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...").
Love is an act of will accompanied by emotion that leads to action on behalf of its object. (I loved that definition.) Find a man who loves you in a biblical way.
2. He must lead in the word (verse 26-"...to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word,"). The man should be the biblical leader... if he isn't capable of being one for you, how will he be able to be one for your children?
3. He must lead in righteousness (verse 27-"and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.").
a. He must be able to protect your emotions
b. His love should not be based on your ability to satisfy him (love that!)...
c. It's not based on what you can give him, but what he is willing to lay down for you.
4. He must be a man who leads in selflessness (verse 28-30: "28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- 30for we are members of his body.")
He should not be thinking of himself more than you. When you are with him, you should feel incredibly valued. He should do things that make you feel respected and cherished...he should open doors for you, help you in the car, etc...
5. He must lead in intimacy.
He should let you into a part of his life that isn't readily available to the outside world...you shouldn't have to pry (this applies to girls too). If he doesn't show emotions toward you, you should let him go. If he gives the excuse that he just isn't an emotional person, go with him to watch his favorite sports team and you'll see that that is not true."
These are things I want in my husband, and I won't settle until I have them. A relationship founded on God and how he wants us to love one another seems like one of the greatest things you can experience.
Next week we're discussing a girl's role and what a guy should look for in a girl... I'm excited to hear!
"And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us..." -1 John 4:16-17
Happy early Valentine's Day!
Last night I went to another one of the college ministry services on the series "Love, Sex, Marriage...and everything in between." A guy talked about Ephesians 5:22-33 and the things a girl should look for in a guy and/or the things God calls a guy to be for a woman. It was all biblically based, and I found it very interesting... all things I want for myself. Here is the list he talked about:
"1. He must lead in love (verse 25-"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...").
Love is an act of will accompanied by emotion that leads to action on behalf of its object. (I loved that definition.) Find a man who loves you in a biblical way.
2. He must lead in the word (verse 26-"...to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word,"). The man should be the biblical leader... if he isn't capable of being one for you, how will he be able to be one for your children?
3. He must lead in righteousness (verse 27-"and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.").
a. He must be able to protect your emotions
b. His love should not be based on your ability to satisfy him (love that!)...
c. It's not based on what you can give him, but what he is willing to lay down for you.
4. He must be a man who leads in selflessness (verse 28-30: "28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- 30for we are members of his body.")
He should not be thinking of himself more than you. When you are with him, you should feel incredibly valued. He should do things that make you feel respected and cherished...he should open doors for you, help you in the car, etc...
5. He must lead in intimacy.
He should let you into a part of his life that isn't readily available to the outside world...you shouldn't have to pry (this applies to girls too). If he doesn't show emotions toward you, you should let him go. If he gives the excuse that he just isn't an emotional person, go with him to watch his favorite sports team and you'll see that that is not true."
These are things I want in my husband, and I won't settle until I have them. A relationship founded on God and how he wants us to love one another seems like one of the greatest things you can experience.
Next week we're discussing a girl's role and what a guy should look for in a girl... I'm excited to hear!
"And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us..." -1 John 4:16-17
Happy early Valentine's Day!