You're Not AlonemegabeastNovember 12 2008, 04:13:03 UTC
You're not alone in your feelings and frustrations. It seems like many of us are in the same boat. I don't know of many 22/23 year-olds who know exactly what they want to do with their lives...or they feel 100% awesome about where they are right now. I've heard that the entire 20's decade is rough because it's this period of turbulence in our lives. We're single and aren't nailed down by families/mortgages... we have nothing holding us back but ourselves and our self-doubt. We have our whole lives ahead of us...yet we still feel this weird obligation to BE SOMETHING so early in life... (read: not be known as a "failure").
Mon, I wouldn't worry about people thinking badly about you. Those who know you know how smart you are. Don't worry about proving yourself to jerks who deem themselves important enough to pass judgment on your situation in life. We all have different goals, aspirations, and paths of getting there. You've gotten yourself a degree-- that's something to be proud of right there. Do not rush into the grad school thing if you're not sure about it. Do what's best for you-- this is your life. Think of how much more rewarding grad school will be when you know that you're headed the right direction and you can write that statement of purpose with complete sincerity and passion!
Re: You're Not AlonetulipfieldNovember 12 2008, 20:18:41 UTC
Meghan,
First, let me just say your icon alone cheered me up immeasurably.
It's so true what you say though. Maybe the reason people rush into marriages and mortgages is to have the sense of security... and then suddenly they have actual responsibilities and relationships holding them back rather than just their internal insecurities, and they can't do what they realize they should have done earlier.
I'll see how it goes w/ this grad school thing. If I get in anyway, maybe I'll realize that this is what I'm supposed to do. If not, I'll be free to try other things.
Thanks so much for your kind words. I definitely needed a pep talk!
Mon, I wouldn't worry about people thinking badly about you. Those who know you know how smart you are. Don't worry about proving yourself to jerks who deem themselves important enough to pass judgment on your situation in life. We all have different goals, aspirations, and paths of getting there. You've gotten yourself a degree-- that's something to be proud of right there. Do not rush into the grad school thing if you're not sure about it. Do what's best for you-- this is your life. Think of how much more rewarding grad school will be when you know that you're headed the right direction and you can write that statement of purpose with complete sincerity and passion!
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First, let me just say your icon alone cheered me up immeasurably.
It's so true what you say though. Maybe the reason people rush into marriages and mortgages is to have the sense of security... and then suddenly they have actual responsibilities and relationships holding them back rather than just their internal insecurities, and they can't do what they realize they should have done earlier.
I'll see how it goes w/ this grad school thing. If I get in anyway, maybe I'll realize that this is what I'm supposed to do. If not, I'll be free to try other things.
Thanks so much for your kind words. I definitely needed a pep talk!
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