Starting Again with Dating Apps
Ok, first things first-two years, TWO YEARS! It took me two years to write here again. Wow, wow, wow.
A few things happening in my life. I moved to a new country with a new job and trying to make new friends. I just broke up with my long-time boyfriend because I know LDR is not gonna work, I have zero faith on it and the feeling was mutual.
So what does a single gal in a new city do to meet people? Turn to dating apps. Three weeks on Tinder and Bumble and I can say that guys have a certain template for profiles:
1. A photo of them having fun
2. A photo of them in the gym or doing something active
3. A photo of them with a pet, baby, or/and a girl-and puts a disclaimer that "hey, not my baby/girlfriend" (WHY'D YOU PUT IT?)
4. A photo of them travelling somewhere to show how well-travelled they are
And they go on to demand a lot of things such as:
1. Show me around your city
2. Travel partner or a life partner
3. Gym buddy
Apparently, according to my friend Piyush, and this guy I went out on a friendly tea date with (he is amazing and funny, and I have a little bit of crush on him because he is smart as hell, but I think that's it because that's it, la), girls also get very demanding. Asks for someone taller than them, no kids, no pets, etc. Sorry, I don't have a concrete list because:
1. There's a lot!
2. I don't see girl profiles to remember them, sorry!
Wow. It is really a demand generation.
I remember someone telling me how it was during his time (yep, the same guy I have a crush on, he is 42 so he is from another generation, HAHA), for them to meet people, they have to go to pubs (PUBS!) and have to be introduced by mutual friends or co-workers.
The point here is, it's gotten easier to meet people, but the amount of things we ask from people we have not even met in real life is unbearable. Dating apps are supposed to be fun and exciting, not transactional.
I'd say I'm still old-fashioned in a sense that I still want to meet-up and gauge in real life a person (although, bless my socially-inept soul) not base my decision on their photos and profiles-which honestly, sometimes are empty anyway.
Oh, well.