Love is Blind Like a Dead Ray Charles With a Sack Over His Head

[truthsbeholder]

Do you know why the divorce rate in america has reached nearly 50%? The "love" such divorced couples had was nothing but illusion motivated by physical attraction. You will never find a more ignorant and blind person than someone with this false love. The fact of the matter, is most couples don't even know each other. Most of the time they are not even conscious of their unknowing though. You can take the biggest asshole in the world, give him a hot bod and the ability to lie through his teeth, and I guarantee that you'll find that he'll get a lot of women and most of them wont even realize he is an asshole for most of the time they are together. It doesn't just apply to guys either. When someone accepts that they like a person, they accept the perfect idea of that person. In other words, if I decide I like Female X (what a hot name) with little to no data- I will have already formed a first impression of her (as I've written about not too long ago). Once I become involved with Female X, I have accepted that person almost as a part of myself. She represents my choice and ideal at the time. She's someone who I think I love, and as such represents love. When (There is no if, it's assured) Female X defies my expectations and original appraisal, I'll prolly ignore it. Why? Because I don't want to be wrong. I give her the benefit of the doubt, because I want her to be what I want, not what she is. I'll ignore and shrug off almost any degree of flaw, because I can't come to terms that I've made a wrong choice. So I'll write it off as a fluke and endure all of Female X's abuse and neglect. The sex will be so good, I'll ask her to marry me. But uh-oh, a year down the line, after the initial thrill has long since become a memory, we'll encounter a bump. A quarrel or whatever form the incident takes, will make me wonder. Is Female X really who I think she is? Slowly and subconsciously over the next few days/weeks/months/years I will become disillusioned with my marriage. I'm no longer getting sex twice a day, in fact I'm lucky if I get it twice a month. All at once, my eyes open and I see Female X for who she really is, a vindictive bitch. I'll notice that she's been cheating on me with the pool guy. I'll be livid. We'll have a huge fight where I leave and stay with my friend on the other part of town. Soon I will file for a divorce. After my divorce, my friends and I will contemplate all that has transpired and all formed the same question: what the heck was I thinking? To which the answer is: I wasn't. I wanted too much for it work. For her to be everything I wanted. For me to be right. For my search to be over, to have finally found love. But now, I've wasted several years of my life and destroyed friendships for her. Female Y who I've been great friends with since childhood, will hate me and will already be married to an asshole. Go me. A few pity parties and a lot of masturbation later, I'll try again, but will probably make the same tragic mistake. Don't misread my point in this. I'm not saying everyone you will like will be a horrible person necessarily, but maybe not the person you think they are. I'm also not implying that you be extremely critical and paranoid of a significant other. You don't need to focus on the bad, but focus on who they actually are, good and bad. Nobody is perfect, for better or for worse. You accept the bad with the good, but don't trick yourself into being blind to someone's faults. True love (in my humble opinion) is knowing all of the bad of someone and knowing what the worst is like, but despite all of that, still cares and wants to be with them. People aren't always very accepting though and are often quick to judge. That's why true love is so rare. Just keep your eyes open.

This whole idea, is just an idea. I don't claim it to be true in all situations, or even true at all. If you don't agree, that's fine, but I bet you can think of a few instances where something like this scenario has occurred in your or a friend's experience.

As a side comment:
Things you learn in one aspect of life can often be applied to many other aspects. Or at least I hope it applies. Here's to the success of the Move-Sustain-Move. Hopefully I don't screw it up like George does.