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Fathers and Fathers to be...
More then 24 hrs removed from Fathers Day and now we return to the pattern.
But before you do, take a moment and look, maybe the pattern will change.
*Fathers who worry- You don't have to be perfect, you never will, just...good enough.
*Fathers who can't say "I love you"- Say it anyway, any way you can. You cannot be strong enough to beat the demons of this world if you haven't the strength to beat your own. Children understand this.
*Fathers who feel they have failed- Get back up, as you bade them to every time they fell from their bicycle. Now you must.
*Fathers who weren't there- Find them, you can never regain what was lost, but you can build SOMETHING. You can still make some difference. It is never too late.
*Fathers who work too much- Stop. or you will miss the very thing you were working for. They don't want the 2 BMW's in the garage, they want you. And they want you to want them.
*Fathers to be- This can be the greatest part of your life, or the worst most painful failure. You will choose which. Start today, love that mother and what she carries. It seems a strange fit at first, I know, but so did your 1st baseball mitt. You will grow into it.
...And for those emotionally destroyed by fathers who should have protected you from this world. Don't embitter yourself too much, or you risk dropping that burden on your own children. What love you didn't receive as a child can find some redemption as a father. It will always sting, what you lost, but it will be worth it. You'll see.
Wherever you are pops, I'm not mad anymore. Only truly sorry you couldn't beat your own past, as I have. And sorry you cannot know what you have missed both from I and my daughters.
More then 24 hrs removed from Fathers Day and now we return to the pattern.
But before you do, take a moment and look, maybe the pattern will change.
*Fathers who worry- You don't have to be perfect, you never will, just...good enough.
*Fathers who can't say "I love you"- Say it anyway, any way you can. You cannot be strong enough to beat the demons of this world if you haven't the strength to beat your own. Children understand this.
*Fathers who feel they have failed- Get back up, as you bade them to every time they fell from their bicycle. Now you must.
*Fathers who weren't there- Find them, you can never regain what was lost, but you can build SOMETHING. You can still make some difference. It is never too late.
*Fathers who work too much- Stop. or you will miss the very thing you were working for. They don't want the 2 BMW's in the garage, they want you. And they want you to want them.
*Fathers to be- This can be the greatest part of your life, or the worst most painful failure. You will choose which. Start today, love that mother and what she carries. It seems a strange fit at first, I know, but so did your 1st baseball mitt. You will grow into it.
...And for those emotionally destroyed by fathers who should have protected you from this world. Don't embitter yourself too much, or you risk dropping that burden on your own children. What love you didn't receive as a child can find some redemption as a father. It will always sting, what you lost, but it will be worth it. You'll see.
Wherever you are pops, I'm not mad anymore. Only truly sorry you couldn't beat your own past, as I have. And sorry you cannot know what you have missed both from I and my daughters.