BMAs are useful for some things, like the basic mechanics of sex - and I'm sure the BMA in question wouldn't object to someone asking him to have casual sex with him. Perhaps it would be a good idea, in the grand scheme of things, to give him a try. Who knows, perhaps he'll be good at it? In which case you might well be satisfied to hang on to him. Or if he's terrible, at least you'll know what it's like to be naked with someone, and then appreciate it even more when a distinguished gentleman who knows not only the basic mechanics, but the finer points, comes along.
Provided the BMA in question isn't a manwhore with herpes. Don't sleep with people with herpes. Or if virginity and the "first time" have any special meaning to you, perhaps wait for a real relationship? Personally it doesn't mean anything to me (I just happened to lose it while I was in a relationship), and I think all those people who said their first time was "very special" are liars - the first time is awkward and sometimes a little scary, and overall not very good. It's just sort of something you have to do sooner or later, who you do it with often becomes irrelevant with time (as long as they don't have herpes.)
I'm sure Brian wouldn't mind showing you things, but you should come armed with some of your own knowledge, for your own sake - knowing generally what you want. The metaphor I'm going to make is, when you go into an ice cream store, someone asks you what you would like, and you say "I don't know, I've never had ice cream before." They can suggest things to you, and perhaps let you try a bit, but you'll get the ice cream you most desire more quickly if you know a bit ahead of time (perhaps something strawberryish rather than something chocolate.)
Perhaps it would be a good idea, in the grand scheme of things, to give him a try. Who knows, perhaps he'll be good at it? In which case you might well be satisfied to hang on to him. Or if he's terrible, at least you'll know what it's like to be naked with someone, and then appreciate it even more when a distinguished gentleman who knows not only the basic mechanics, but the finer points, comes along.
Provided the BMA in question isn't a manwhore with herpes. Don't sleep with people with herpes.
Or if virginity and the "first time" have any special meaning to you, perhaps wait for a real relationship? Personally it doesn't mean anything to me (I just happened to lose it while I was in a relationship), and I think all those people who said their first time was "very special" are liars - the first time is awkward and sometimes a little scary, and overall not very good. It's just sort of something you have to do sooner or later, who you do it with often becomes irrelevant with time (as long as they don't have herpes.)
I'm sure Brian wouldn't mind showing you things, but you should come armed with some of your own knowledge, for your own sake - knowing generally what you want.
The metaphor I'm going to make is, when you go into an ice cream store, someone asks you what you would like, and you say "I don't know, I've never had ice cream before." They can suggest things to you, and perhaps let you try a bit, but you'll get the ice cream you most desire more quickly if you know a bit ahead of time (perhaps something strawberryish rather than something chocolate.)
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