A Philosophy of mine, and why I don't feel this anymore.
Loneliness, it's not a state of feeling, it's not a state of emotion, it's a state of self-worth. What I mean is this, it's very simple. When you feel lonely, you're feeling great dependency upon something else instead of on your own two feet. It's not saying that loneliness is a weakness, but it's saying that when one has the feeling of being lonely it's the fact that they don't have much worth in their own being. No one shouldn't be like that, I shouldn't be like that, you can't be like that. But people are because of that human quality that we all have of wanting to belong. Either it being in a group of friends, being in a group at work, or just a group of people that share the same interest, it's sort of what makes us feel like there's a reason to exist.
Though in having the dependency on that, one can suddenly lose function if their reason for not being lonely disappears. Such as a wife, a girlfriend, a submissive/dominate, or even a best friend etc. The list goes on, but even if you feel loneliness from those types of disappearances, it's a great time to look at your own self worth. Find out what makes you, you. Don't try to think about whatever was that kept you from being lonely. Start thinking about what your gifts are, your talents, your specialties, your connections, the other people in life. When you're able to do that, you start finding out more about your worth to either the people around you, the people you know, or your town, whichever.
Yes, my viewpoint may be that of a loner, but I'm not necessarily alone. I have my girl, I have my friends, I have what makes me happy, and I know what I can do if I ever lose any of that to keep myself from drowning in any type of misery, any type of disbelief, or to even be shackled down. In order to get over any type of loneliness, it's best to have a respect towards your own self, by doing that, you'll notice things a bit differently. Not saying this will be effective IMMEDIATELY, but trust me, it takes time for all things to heal, mend, create, break, or whatever.
In short, just remember your own self worth, and you can pull through anything life throws at you.
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Though in having the dependency on that, one can suddenly lose function if their reason for not being lonely disappears. Such as a wife, a girlfriend, a submissive/dominate, or even a best friend etc. The list goes on, but even if you feel loneliness from those types of disappearances, it's a great time to look at your own self worth. Find out what makes you, you. Don't try to think about whatever was that kept you from being lonely. Start thinking about what your gifts are, your talents, your specialties, your connections, the other people in life. When you're able to do that, you start finding out more about your worth to either the people around you, the people you know, or your town, whichever.
Yes, my viewpoint may be that of a loner, but I'm not necessarily alone. I have my girl, I have my friends, I have what makes me happy, and I know what I can do if I ever lose any of that to keep myself from drowning in any type of misery, any type of disbelief, or to even be shackled down. In order to get over any type of loneliness, it's best to have a respect towards your own self, by doing that, you'll notice things a bit differently. Not saying this will be effective IMMEDIATELY, but trust me, it takes time for all things to heal, mend, create, break, or whatever.
In short, just remember your own self worth, and you can pull through anything life throws at you.
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