Aspects of BSDM, Poly, LGBT Lifestyles Going Mainstream?

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The April 20 edition of the 20/20 show on ABC was very exciting for me. It's not often that we get a sensible treatment of what are usually topics we hear only about on the likes of Fox "News" or other "conservative" outlets, groaning and bemoaning the fall of "family values" and the American way of life -- however it is they choose to define this

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[sharon_masters]

Yes, this was a very important little snippet of reality for the US. i had some issue with the way they tried to make this almost TOO much about what kids know or don't know- my own son is a wonderful example of being in the dark while totally in the light. He has never been told anything sexual- but he knows all my friends, has sat around dinner tables with our extended leather family, spent Thanksgiving and Christmas day dinners with large groups that, although first brought together through kink find larger common experience and communal joy in the sharing of holidays and life, fun, and friendship. He never needs to know that the people- like you, who are the emergency response names on his school papers, or like Ellen, can come to emergency and sign papers, are also those that i share more than just my whole damned vanilla life.
That is the part i sort of deplore- that, in the necessary talk about sex with vanillas, that they hyper focus on our relationships as being NOTHING but kink oriented. We are not attracted to our lovers and friends just for the fucking and the playing, we are there because they attract us as people, as friends, as extended family, and they are much more to us than just the narrow confines of prurient vanilla prejudices and kinky scenes in some book.

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I do agree that children should not be oversexualized -- or any aspect of our lives and relationships for that matter. I think that one of the parents in the segment actually made the point that their children's desire to know only went so far, and that they really weren't interested in knowing what happened on 'sleepovers' any more than children might normally want to know about their parents' sex lives.

As with all relationships, different things bind different folks together. Some are perhaps more tenuous than others, but we learn to accept them for what they are and not what they should be or what we hope they could be. So sometimes it's just at munches or play parties. Some start there and become more. It's not really any different, I don't think, than most relationship contexts... well, maybe escept for the screaming. hehe

But it's usually those who seek to vilify us who try to overemphasize just one particular aspect of our lives. And it exposes their narrow-mindedness even as much as their assertion that all our lives need to fit inside these neat little boxes that some mythical being decided thousands of years ago. (sigh) Sad little creatures... There should be a rescue where such malcontents can be nursed back to full adulthood and released back into the wild.