Southern Cross' Slut of the Month
Back in July, and with a humongous helping of munch crack (yes, bigger than M's bowls of ranch dressing), the Southern Cross Slut of the Month recognition plaque was born. Almost as soon as it happened, several people were abuzz trying to learn what the requirements were to "win" and get selected for the list. Rules, people? This is Southern Cross... an organization that lives and breaths on the principle that there are NO rules, that we're out here to HAVE FUN. And the SOTM burns brightly with this same tradition.
In a thread one community member posted, they remarked
So I'm thinking I don't need to be in the running for slut of the month. ... So the question is why would I try? I think I am still trying to get more and more comfortable with my sexuality.
Exactly. Have you ever read "Ethical Slut"? The essence of slut (which can be decorated with exhibitionist, but the two aren't intertwined IMO) is an openness about sex that leads them to having lots of it. Webster's literally defines it "a promiscuous [person]".
What makes being a slut noteworthy to me is that there is a strong undercurrent in our culture that makes us refer to "significant others" in the singular. The whole notion that we might do plural, and not as relationships (e.g. poly), just gives people a bad feeling that often they can't explain.
Why should anyone /try/ to be a slut? I'm not sure they should. I certainly wouldn't suggest everyone run out and slut around just to win recognition or an award. I guess that's why I've been confused why everyone is so concerned about the rules.... sluts don't worry so much about rules. That's why they're sluts. :) Make sense?
Example of why S stood out as a slut in my mind? Even while following rules during the dating and playing, etc with new folks whilst searching for a new partner ... there were situations where suddenly raw urges took hold and rules were tossed aside. Which is when I took note and started calling out "SLUT". For me, it was just basic recognition of sluttiness... and eventually led to the idea that we might have a SOTM.
I tend to think of SOTM less as a competition and more as a recognition of people who are just out there doing their thing. To whit, I don't really like the concept of a year-end "slut off". Seems desperate and contrived on some level, and trying to force competitive spirit on something that should just happen naturally.
Oh, and now you have a better idea of why I took myself out of the running. I wouldn't want to get to the point where I feel I have to check off on some kind of checklist to measure my sluttiness... that would be like freakin' work. What I enjoy most about being a slut is that there are NO rules.... :) So be or be not.... but whatever you do, have FUN! :D
As much of this was originally posted as a comment in the aforementioned thread, I thought it might be nice to note that there was agreement with the driver behind making SOTM a reality:
Actually, everyone sluts at their own unique levels, so, you already ARE in the running...
and doing quite well i might add.
Trollup put it PERFECTLY in that reply there--- which is why there was like, not even any DISCUSSION about who should be the watcher of da slut awards...
He knows his stuff.
And you may well get yer name on that itty bitty plaque.