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It's been awhile since I've discussed Chris, MinJung and Yasmine. Here is an update and boy it's quite THE UPDATE!
As Jason and I suspected would happen based on some of MinJung's behavior during the pregnancy and just her strict culture (among other things) she did develop postpartum depression and got extremly angry at Chris and the baby. Tried to attack them both and wanted them dead. Chris hasn't gone into detail but it was bad enough that his mom (and uncle) flew to South Korea to take Yasmine to the US without Chris or MinJung. Chris couldn't go because his job offered a really (I mean a really) nice bonus if he stayed an extra three weeks. And MinJung couldn't come because she needs this time away from the baby to heal. Apparently MinJung blames Chris for everything, breaks things, threatens him and stole his money (and again other things he's not getting into). The money part really has me concerned/pissed because he made a public post on his FB asking if he should stay for the money or go home with his 1 and half month old child (very few people know the real details of everything) and she responded he should stay because the money is for food, diapers, etc for their baby. So she turns around and takes said money? Well the three weeks are up and Chris is back in the US got back last Monday but we haven't seen him or the baby yet. Right now they are on vacation in Florida and we'll get together (likely at his parents house) when he returns.
Jason and I would really like him to fill in the gaps of the things he doesn't want to talk about to get a better idea of what is going on. We both get the impression it's in fact worse than he's leading on but is leaving detail out in fear his strict religious parents will find out. Both his parents (more so his dad) will post random comments/messages to MinJung's wall that to me seem way too happy, cheerful and loving for someone who threatened/tried to kill his child/grandchild. But like I said that might just be me. Obvisously they have to know some details or his mom won't have traveled around the world for Yasmine.
I do understand postpartum depression is something very serious and I hope MinJung gets the best help and quick has possible. But I also want them to have a happy marriage and not something fake or a big show because being afraid they'll hurt people. Oh and the plan is for MinJung to come to the the US in a month or two; but Chris always adds a note of ....if at all...
It also real bugs me that MinJung will comment (she did a bunch a few days ago) on random pictures of Yasmine when she was just born (up to a week or so in age) and will comment with things like "oh my poor baby I'm sorry I gave you a tumor will you ever forgive me?" It would be one thing if she made those remarks a few days after ... not two and half months later when the baby is doing a 100 times better! How could thinking of the past like that possibly help MinJung heal and get better? Oh and Chris gave Yasmine her own Facebook page and those pictures/comments are posted there. His hope is that FB will still be around when she gets older so she can see how much people loved her, what they thought of her, etc. Which I think is really sweet ... but she'll have read all these depressing comments from her mom and that to me doesn't seem right.
As Jason and I suspected would happen based on some of MinJung's behavior during the pregnancy and just her strict culture (among other things) she did develop postpartum depression and got extremly angry at Chris and the baby. Tried to attack them both and wanted them dead. Chris hasn't gone into detail but it was bad enough that his mom (and uncle) flew to South Korea to take Yasmine to the US without Chris or MinJung. Chris couldn't go because his job offered a really (I mean a really) nice bonus if he stayed an extra three weeks. And MinJung couldn't come because she needs this time away from the baby to heal. Apparently MinJung blames Chris for everything, breaks things, threatens him and stole his money (and again other things he's not getting into). The money part really has me concerned/pissed because he made a public post on his FB asking if he should stay for the money or go home with his 1 and half month old child (very few people know the real details of everything) and she responded he should stay because the money is for food, diapers, etc for their baby. So she turns around and takes said money? Well the three weeks are up and Chris is back in the US got back last Monday but we haven't seen him or the baby yet. Right now they are on vacation in Florida and we'll get together (likely at his parents house) when he returns.
Jason and I would really like him to fill in the gaps of the things he doesn't want to talk about to get a better idea of what is going on. We both get the impression it's in fact worse than he's leading on but is leaving detail out in fear his strict religious parents will find out. Both his parents (more so his dad) will post random comments/messages to MinJung's wall that to me seem way too happy, cheerful and loving for someone who threatened/tried to kill his child/grandchild. But like I said that might just be me. Obvisously they have to know some details or his mom won't have traveled around the world for Yasmine.
I do understand postpartum depression is something very serious and I hope MinJung gets the best help and quick has possible. But I also want them to have a happy marriage and not something fake or a big show because being afraid they'll hurt people. Oh and the plan is for MinJung to come to the the US in a month or two; but Chris always adds a note of ....if at all...
It also real bugs me that MinJung will comment (she did a bunch a few days ago) on random pictures of Yasmine when she was just born (up to a week or so in age) and will comment with things like "oh my poor baby I'm sorry I gave you a tumor will you ever forgive me?" It would be one thing if she made those remarks a few days after ... not two and half months later when the baby is doing a 100 times better! How could thinking of the past like that possibly help MinJung heal and get better? Oh and Chris gave Yasmine her own Facebook page and those pictures/comments are posted there. His hope is that FB will still be around when she gets older so she can see how much people loved her, what they thought of her, etc. Which I think is really sweet ... but she'll have read all these depressing comments from her mom and that to me doesn't seem right.