Assume
So... I have very much learned the lesson that you can't assume anything about anyone even if you know them well.
My parents have up to this point pretty much pretended that I hadnt told them anything. After my dad's outburst....things have been like I never said anything to them in the first place..... I thought it was odd but I was gonna give them time to digest. So today I go over to help my mom do shopping for thanksgiving and cleaning and whatnot. She was trying to figure out if she would need to borrow a table from someone and was trying to figure out how many people were going to be there. She got to about 9 people when she confirmed that my brothers girlfriend was going to oregon when she asks if I plan on bringing my "friend". I told her no since dad was so freaked out about it where she proceeds to tell me that she was reading what he was typing to me over his shoulder and that she just had to walk away pretty much in horror. I tell her that it is saoirse42 and that we have been dating since Feb and she said she figured that was who it was. She then tells me that she informed my dad that she was going to tell me to invite T (Yes I am lazy and dont want to type the lj name in a bunch of time) regardless of what he has to say. To which he evidently gave her a "look". She then informed him that this was a good time for it because it is busy and there will be a bunch of other people and a nice casual way to get to know T without there being a crazy critical focus on just that (GO MOM!) She then tells me that she will always welcome T whenever I want to bring her. (Which made me immediately burst into tears).
In conclusion.. my mom rocks my damn face off..... and proceeds to become an even more awesome woman then I ever would have anticipated....
I think I will let my dad have this one last holiday and maybe take T with me to thanksgiving.... it will also give me a chance to tell my grandparents. I havent yet because I figured it was important to get things hashed out with my parents before involving the rest of the family... So.. we will have to see how things continue to go....
My parents have up to this point pretty much pretended that I hadnt told them anything. After my dad's outburst....things have been like I never said anything to them in the first place..... I thought it was odd but I was gonna give them time to digest. So today I go over to help my mom do shopping for thanksgiving and cleaning and whatnot. She was trying to figure out if she would need to borrow a table from someone and was trying to figure out how many people were going to be there. She got to about 9 people when she confirmed that my brothers girlfriend was going to oregon when she asks if I plan on bringing my "friend". I told her no since dad was so freaked out about it where she proceeds to tell me that she was reading what he was typing to me over his shoulder and that she just had to walk away pretty much in horror. I tell her that it is saoirse42 and that we have been dating since Feb and she said she figured that was who it was. She then tells me that she informed my dad that she was going to tell me to invite T (Yes I am lazy and dont want to type the lj name in a bunch of time) regardless of what he has to say. To which he evidently gave her a "look". She then informed him that this was a good time for it because it is busy and there will be a bunch of other people and a nice casual way to get to know T without there being a crazy critical focus on just that (GO MOM!) She then tells me that she will always welcome T whenever I want to bring her. (Which made me immediately burst into tears).
In conclusion.. my mom rocks my damn face off..... and proceeds to become an even more awesome woman then I ever would have anticipated....
I think I will let my dad have this one last holiday and maybe take T with me to thanksgiving.... it will also give me a chance to tell my grandparents. I havent yet because I figured it was important to get things hashed out with my parents before involving the rest of the family... So.. we will have to see how things continue to go....