A heartbreaking difficult experience, a difficult lesson
I had a friend who I met at church in my sophomore year of high school. Over time of getting to know each other we became best friends. In my senior year of high school our friendship drifted apart for some reason. Eventually we got in touch again, got to know each other again, and became really good friends. I knew when we got back in touch again we would probably not become best friends again because our lives changed. Instead we became good friends, which was cool with me because I was just happy to have this person in my life again. By surprise and shock on March 8th I received an e-mail from this person. I was surprised and shocked because I have not talked, seen, or received a "real" e-mail from this person in a long time, so this was odd considering we were the type of friends that would send "real" e-mails to each other basically on a daily basis. Anyway, this person decided to send me an e-mail breaking ties with me. I was so schocked and upset! After I received this e-mail without even fully thinking I made some bad decisions in this situation. After awhile this person left me a voicemail on my cell phone stating why they decided to break ties with me. I take ownership in the bad judgements I made during this situation. I am deeply sorry for the bad judgement, and I wish I could tell this person how truly sorry I am, but I cannot because I am no longer allowed to call or e-mail this person anymore. While that is difficult I have to honor this person's request, and that is what I'm doing. I feel like in a way that this person has passed away because I'm mourning the loss of our friendship while still very hurt, and trying my best to heal from this emotional heartbreaking situation, which will take a long time.
While I understand that people's lives change, grow, and people go different paths in life that is difficult for me to grasp at times because I like to meet people, make friends, and friendships either grow stronger or friendships may drift apart for different reasons. When a friendship drifts apart it leaves me confused and upset. In my case a friendship has ended. That has left me emotionally hurt and angry! I understand that everyone has the right to choose who they let into their lives and who they choose as friends. After what I have experienced if anyone decides to break ties with their friends, if you don't want someone to be a part of your life anymore, or if you don't want to make connections with someone anymore or vice versa, I feel the most appropriate way to tell a friend you want to break ties with them, or a person you no longer want them to be a part of your life, or make connections with you is to call them or talk to them in person that way each person can explain their feelings and ask questions. I don't think sending an e-mail ending a friendship is appropriate because that person may be left wondering, "What did I do or say to make you decide to cut ties with me." just like I did after I received the e-mail from this person. It's wrong, and it's hurtful! The only way I would say that sending an e-mail to someone to end a friendship is appropriate is when you don't have their phone number or you will not be seeing them in person for awhile or in the future, and if you state an explanation as to why you want to cut ties with someone. With that said, if there is anyone who is reading this right now or stumbles across this in the future and I know you and/or you know me, and you no longer want me to make connections with you or you don't want to make connections with me, or me to be a part of your life, please let me know by phone or in person, unless you don't have my phone number or will not be seeing me in awhile or in the future then send me an e-mail with an explanation as to why you want to cut ties with me. It may be difficult for me to deal with but at least I will know, and I will deal with it in my own time and in my own way.
This situation hurt me deeply. From this experience I have started to examine my life in the sense of who I let into my life. I am from now on going to make an effort to remain guarded in who I let into my life because I feel that's the right thing to do after what I've been through, and honestly I don't know when someone else in my life will just one day send me an e-mail ending a friendship or connection with me.
While I understand that people's lives change, grow, and people go different paths in life that is difficult for me to grasp at times because I like to meet people, make friends, and friendships either grow stronger or friendships may drift apart for different reasons. When a friendship drifts apart it leaves me confused and upset. In my case a friendship has ended. That has left me emotionally hurt and angry! I understand that everyone has the right to choose who they let into their lives and who they choose as friends. After what I have experienced if anyone decides to break ties with their friends, if you don't want someone to be a part of your life anymore, or if you don't want to make connections with someone anymore or vice versa, I feel the most appropriate way to tell a friend you want to break ties with them, or a person you no longer want them to be a part of your life, or make connections with you is to call them or talk to them in person that way each person can explain their feelings and ask questions. I don't think sending an e-mail ending a friendship is appropriate because that person may be left wondering, "What did I do or say to make you decide to cut ties with me." just like I did after I received the e-mail from this person. It's wrong, and it's hurtful! The only way I would say that sending an e-mail to someone to end a friendship is appropriate is when you don't have their phone number or you will not be seeing them in person for awhile or in the future, and if you state an explanation as to why you want to cut ties with someone. With that said, if there is anyone who is reading this right now or stumbles across this in the future and I know you and/or you know me, and you no longer want me to make connections with you or you don't want to make connections with me, or me to be a part of your life, please let me know by phone or in person, unless you don't have my phone number or will not be seeing me in awhile or in the future then send me an e-mail with an explanation as to why you want to cut ties with me. It may be difficult for me to deal with but at least I will know, and I will deal with it in my own time and in my own way.
This situation hurt me deeply. From this experience I have started to examine my life in the sense of who I let into my life. I am from now on going to make an effort to remain guarded in who I let into my life because I feel that's the right thing to do after what I've been through, and honestly I don't know when someone else in my life will just one day send me an e-mail ending a friendship or connection with me.