Just call me Bridget Jones
People keep asking me how my love life is, am I dating anyone, have I found anyone yet. I'm 29, single, never married, no kids, which down South is akin to a felony, it seems. Nearly everyone I know is married or dating someone. I mean, it probably doesn't help that I don't actually know a lot of people my age; it seems like most of the people I work with are either my parents' age or just out of college. Not to mention, teaching isn't exactly a hot spot for single men. Thinking about it, although it would be nice to be with someone who understands what my job is like, it would also be nice to be with someone who isn't also working for a pittance, so that we could, you know, make enough to live off of.
My dad and stepmom keep going "Match.com!" It worked for them, so of course they're convinced it would work for me. On the other hand, a single friend of mine keeps winding up on bad dates with guys she met on Match (although I have my suspicions that it has more to do with her personality than the guys she's dating). And I've thought about it. My life is fairly stable right now, so why not, right? Only thing is, I'm not entirely sure I'm not thinking that only because when you're my age and single, society puts a lot of pressure on you to be not single. Because the truth is that every once in a while I'm like "You know, it would be nice to have a significant other right now;" in certain moments where I'm the only single girl in the room or something. But that's it, just in certain moments. The rest of the time, I'm extrordinarily content with what I've got. I was thinking about it the other day and all I could think was how having a significant other was going to cut into my RP time, how it would mean the end of not shaving my legs on a regular basis and the beginning of worrying about my appearance all the time. I'm not into that. Been there, done that. But I have more thoughts about how I wish certain long-distance friends lived closer and could hang out than I do about wanting a boyfriend.
I love that my mom has never once bugged me about dating, marriage, or giving her grandkids. Although I do have to wonder why that is.
Not to mention I'm unbelievably picky and it's quite possible that no man alive could have exactly what I want in a potential partner. I've poked around Match.com; it's really hard to find someone my age who doesn't have kids and/or divorce papers. It's been my experience that most "geek guys" are the kind of person that I'd love as far as personality, interests, all that stuff goes, but I'm not the least bit physically attracted to. No military guys, which means slim pickins around here, and and nobody whose job title sounds like something you don't have to have a college degree to do. Basically, my ideal guy is a hot professional sports player (or someone in another line of work that requires a good bit of travel) who reads Harry Potter, likes Star Trek, and writes fanfic.
Yeah. They're lining up outside my door as I write this.
But at any rate, my question to you is this: why does society think that the only way we can be happy is to get married and have kids? I don't particularly want to do either of those things, especially the kids part. Why should happiness depend on the presence of other people? This is what I think about when I'm bored.
My dad and stepmom keep going "Match.com!" It worked for them, so of course they're convinced it would work for me. On the other hand, a single friend of mine keeps winding up on bad dates with guys she met on Match (although I have my suspicions that it has more to do with her personality than the guys she's dating). And I've thought about it. My life is fairly stable right now, so why not, right? Only thing is, I'm not entirely sure I'm not thinking that only because when you're my age and single, society puts a lot of pressure on you to be not single. Because the truth is that every once in a while I'm like "You know, it would be nice to have a significant other right now;" in certain moments where I'm the only single girl in the room or something. But that's it, just in certain moments. The rest of the time, I'm extrordinarily content with what I've got. I was thinking about it the other day and all I could think was how having a significant other was going to cut into my RP time, how it would mean the end of not shaving my legs on a regular basis and the beginning of worrying about my appearance all the time. I'm not into that. Been there, done that. But I have more thoughts about how I wish certain long-distance friends lived closer and could hang out than I do about wanting a boyfriend.
I love that my mom has never once bugged me about dating, marriage, or giving her grandkids. Although I do have to wonder why that is.
Not to mention I'm unbelievably picky and it's quite possible that no man alive could have exactly what I want in a potential partner. I've poked around Match.com; it's really hard to find someone my age who doesn't have kids and/or divorce papers. It's been my experience that most "geek guys" are the kind of person that I'd love as far as personality, interests, all that stuff goes, but I'm not the least bit physically attracted to. No military guys, which means slim pickins around here, and and nobody whose job title sounds like something you don't have to have a college degree to do. Basically, my ideal guy is a hot professional sports player (or someone in another line of work that requires a good bit of travel) who reads Harry Potter, likes Star Trek, and writes fanfic.
Yeah. They're lining up outside my door as I write this.
But at any rate, my question to you is this: why does society think that the only way we can be happy is to get married and have kids? I don't particularly want to do either of those things, especially the kids part. Why should happiness depend on the presence of other people? This is what I think about when I'm bored.