What's the Worst Thing?
I think the worst thing in the world is being alone. When one believes so whole heartedly that they have something good to contribute to someone else or that all the hope, the joy, and the love in their heart could be shared so openly with another. I think that it's a tragedy that they are otherwise unable to do so.
A friend of mine has been single for more than the past two years and he claims that he has been sexless for that approximate amount of time also. More than anything he wants someone to love. I can see where he's coming from. I have actually been single for a longer time than he has(and to the other I plead the 5th). I believe that everyone is both a creator and a destroyer. Every person wants to build towards something(even if that something is destruction). That and you can't build without destroying as it is an endless circle. More than anything, he wants to build a family and life with someone. He wants to love and be loved. I feel bad for him because I think he's a great guy. Yes he's got some things to work through, but he is no less deserving of love than many other people.
Me, I'm not pressing it. I'm pursuing options but nothing concrete and I'm alright with that. I mean you have to be right? Crying over the fact that you love someone and want to be with them even though they didn't want to be with you and have someone now isn't going to get you anywhere. I hate it when people belly-ache about how a guy/girl isn't good enough for someone or that they could do better. Obviously, the person is with that-guy/girl-you-detest for a reason, so as I say, "Get over it." Don't get me wrong I'd like nothing more than to punch a guy in a face but damn, where would that get me? It's just the displaced anger of me not being what the person that I want and that I'm not their ideal, I can't fault someone else for filling that niche. Besides, all I'd ever wanted for that person was to be happy and for me to provide them with some amount of that happiness as they in turn do so for me.
I decided about 6 years ago after the birth of my Niece to just focusing on being happy and those things that made me happy. And even now and again when I start to think about times when I was with someone or someone that I wanted (and it's been happening recently) I force myself to think about things that make me happy. It works too. I haven't found anyone that has always been depressing that I've wanted to hangout with or be around so why would I want to be that person. I don't and I won't.
You may want someone to live for, but think about all those people for whom know and care that you're alive. Be the best that you are and it will happen. Patience sucks but is important. She/he's out there if that's what you're looking for. Life is an adventure.
So remember-
You can tune a piano but you can't tune a fish.
When a Man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
Later Folks...