Comments | trevd: Friend on the verge

trevd

Friend on the verge

Feb 23, 2007 10:54

A good friend is in big trouble and I don't know what to do about it ( Read more... )

Comments 8

pagerbear February 23 2007, 19:23:35 UTC

I wish I knew something helpful to say. It sounds like all your advice is very good. But it also sounds like your concern is well founded. I hope your friend makes it through this crisis OK. **pagerhugs**

trevd February 23 2007, 21:50:39 UTC

I've never had to deal with someone in such a rough spot. I've dealt with myself in rock bottom situations like this, but at least in those cases I know (or at least am fairly certain) I wouldn't cross that line and do something irreversible. I don't know with him, though, and he's sounding almost like it's a done deal. I really hope it's depression-induced dramatics, but it could be for real. I'm really worried.

pagerbear February 23 2007, 22:14:48 UTC

As Andy says, you're already doing the right things--just keeping doing them. More **pagerhugs**. You're a very kind and loving man.

bigfundrew February 23 2007, 20:00:03 UTC

you ARE being his friend

keep at it...keep asking ....keep listening...keep pushing for the doctor

trevd February 23 2007, 21:51:33 UTC

Well I'm trying my best, and I'll drag him kicking and screaming to get help, wherever I can find it.

pumba February 23 2007, 21:23:20 UTC

how about offering to take him to the doctor. I am not sure how it is in your neck of the woods but if you go into the Emergency Room here and tell them you want to jump off a brige and all the other stuff going on they will put him on a 3 day psyc hold and try and help him.

trevd February 23 2007, 21:46:27 UTC

Yeah, the hospital could be a good place to try if he won't go to a doctor on his own. I mean at the very least, he probably needs a bit of sedative to calm him down and let him sleep for a bit. Just getting a bit of rest might calm him down a little. And hopefully he'll get a chance to talk to someone who actually knows something or two about keeping someone sane through high stress situations... I'm doing my best, but I'm no expert. It doesn't help that I'm the only one who seems to give a shit right now.

velnich February 24 2007, 18:12:31 UTC

Tell him to get some credit counseling. They can come up with a solution good or bad and just having one makes a huge difference.