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What is up, people. So, I think I'll post this here, even though I always feel weird taking about this stuff. Don't know why.
There is a girl who started at work a few months ago. Slowly but surely we started talking. Starting with a "hey how's it going" here and there. Which led to more and more talking. At one point when we were talking a lot more, she just randomly brought up that she had a boyfriend in Minnesota. I took this as a "just so you know" type thing to do. A few days after that, she was sitting somewhere different than she usually does and I emailed her and asked her why. She tells me that her boyfriend just out of the blue dumped her. So I ask her if she wants to talk about it and we spend a break where she gets to unload. A day or so later she is talking about how she actually feels good about it. But then as she's thinking out loud, she gets upset again and starts crying. I let her cry on my shoulder and give her a hug. After this, she tells me that I helped her get through it and appreciates it a lot. Ex boyfriend isn't mentioned again.
So, over the next few weeks, I notice small little "flirty" things coming from her. I brush them off as wishful thinking on my part. This past Thursday, some of us at work decided to go out, to celebrate the semester being done. This was the first time I've hung out with her outside of work. While we are out, the small "flirty" things were a lot more noticeable. Such as when she moved to the other end of the table, and when I came back from somewhere else, and sat there to tell a couple of people something, and I said, "I'm going back to my seat." and she'd say "you're here now!" Lots of smiling at me and such. Then later she was hugging me a lot, and resting her head on my shoulders. At this point, my friends would say "Ask her out, your own the green, you just got to tap it in." I said "no, I don't think so." We then go to a dance club. Every time said girl wasn't dancing, a female friend of mine would say "Dance with me and see how fast she comes out on the floor, lets see how jealous we can make her." Which, it never took long. At one point, I go to the bathroom, and they discuss why I haven't said anything to the girl. One of them says "we should find out how she feels before we make him do something, and then things would be weird between them." So, one of the guys goes over to her and says "what do you think of him?" and she says "I like him." He then thinks that this is very open ended, and could be taken a lot of ways and then says "No, what I mean is, he's sort of got a crush..." and she interrupts him and says "No, I LIKE him...it's just that I broke up with my boyfriend recently, I thought he was going to be the one I was going to marry, so I really don't want anything serious right now...but I like him." He then tells her that I wouldn't want anything too serious right away either(which is true) but who knows..."
So her and I dance the rest of the night, and then when we are heading home, we're in the back seat of the car. We stop to get food, and she keeps feeding me fries. We get to her place, and I get out of the car so she can. I give her a hug and kiss her on the cheek and tell her I had a lot of fun, and that I'd see her when she comes back(she's going home for christmas break...about a month). She then says "I'm sure I'll call you or text you during break. I'll see you when I get back though" and then she kissed me on the lips.
When I get home, I text her to say goodnight again. Then the next day, I texted her to say "have a safe trip home, I'll see you in January." Which I didn't get any replies to. I'm hoping that these two things weren't taken as being "pushy" or too forward.
So, long winded I know, but I thought I'd give the whole story. My questions are...what does nothing serious mean? Is it a "hey, lets take things slow, and see what happens." That's pretty much how I want it. Or could it mean, "not right now, sorry." The thing I don't want though is a "friends with benefits" type deal. She doesn't seem like that sort of person, so hopefully that isn't going to be a problem. I also wonder how much was brought on by drinking. She didn't seem that drunk, so this is probably me just being pessimistic.
Anyway, that's really about it right now.
Until again,
What is up, people. So, I think I'll post this here, even though I always feel weird taking about this stuff. Don't know why.
There is a girl who started at work a few months ago. Slowly but surely we started talking. Starting with a "hey how's it going" here and there. Which led to more and more talking. At one point when we were talking a lot more, she just randomly brought up that she had a boyfriend in Minnesota. I took this as a "just so you know" type thing to do. A few days after that, she was sitting somewhere different than she usually does and I emailed her and asked her why. She tells me that her boyfriend just out of the blue dumped her. So I ask her if she wants to talk about it and we spend a break where she gets to unload. A day or so later she is talking about how she actually feels good about it. But then as she's thinking out loud, she gets upset again and starts crying. I let her cry on my shoulder and give her a hug. After this, she tells me that I helped her get through it and appreciates it a lot. Ex boyfriend isn't mentioned again.
So, over the next few weeks, I notice small little "flirty" things coming from her. I brush them off as wishful thinking on my part. This past Thursday, some of us at work decided to go out, to celebrate the semester being done. This was the first time I've hung out with her outside of work. While we are out, the small "flirty" things were a lot more noticeable. Such as when she moved to the other end of the table, and when I came back from somewhere else, and sat there to tell a couple of people something, and I said, "I'm going back to my seat." and she'd say "you're here now!" Lots of smiling at me and such. Then later she was hugging me a lot, and resting her head on my shoulders. At this point, my friends would say "Ask her out, your own the green, you just got to tap it in." I said "no, I don't think so." We then go to a dance club. Every time said girl wasn't dancing, a female friend of mine would say "Dance with me and see how fast she comes out on the floor, lets see how jealous we can make her." Which, it never took long. At one point, I go to the bathroom, and they discuss why I haven't said anything to the girl. One of them says "we should find out how she feels before we make him do something, and then things would be weird between them." So, one of the guys goes over to her and says "what do you think of him?" and she says "I like him." He then thinks that this is very open ended, and could be taken a lot of ways and then says "No, what I mean is, he's sort of got a crush..." and she interrupts him and says "No, I LIKE him...it's just that I broke up with my boyfriend recently, I thought he was going to be the one I was going to marry, so I really don't want anything serious right now...but I like him." He then tells her that I wouldn't want anything too serious right away either(which is true) but who knows..."
So her and I dance the rest of the night, and then when we are heading home, we're in the back seat of the car. We stop to get food, and she keeps feeding me fries. We get to her place, and I get out of the car so she can. I give her a hug and kiss her on the cheek and tell her I had a lot of fun, and that I'd see her when she comes back(she's going home for christmas break...about a month). She then says "I'm sure I'll call you or text you during break. I'll see you when I get back though" and then she kissed me on the lips.
When I get home, I text her to say goodnight again. Then the next day, I texted her to say "have a safe trip home, I'll see you in January." Which I didn't get any replies to. I'm hoping that these two things weren't taken as being "pushy" or too forward.
So, long winded I know, but I thought I'd give the whole story. My questions are...what does nothing serious mean? Is it a "hey, lets take things slow, and see what happens." That's pretty much how I want it. Or could it mean, "not right now, sorry." The thing I don't want though is a "friends with benefits" type deal. She doesn't seem like that sort of person, so hopefully that isn't going to be a problem. I also wonder how much was brought on by drinking. She didn't seem that drunk, so this is probably me just being pessimistic.
Anyway, that's really about it right now.
Until again,