My Pregnant Husband
This is a story about my husband Scott. Were are two gay men, who are legally married. Looking at Scott he is very much a handsome and outgoing young man. Together we proudly parent our two adoptive son’s Logan 10, and Greggory 12.
After having his breasts removed in 2005, when he was only fifteen years old. And now being able to grow a beard and male body hair through hormone replacement therapy of testosterone for five years. Scott is now five and a half months pregnant.
Although he may not be the first, Scott is very much a pregnant man. Scott, now 20 still has his female reproductive organs. Because of this and after several of his childhood years struggling with his sexual identity and fighting to live as a man, he did what many might think is impossible including our family doctor. He became pregnant with his first biological child early June of this year.
As a teen Scott says he never thought he would ever have children. But after parenting our adopted children, our desire to have another child brought us to a cross roads they knew would forever change their lives. But Scott and I thought that it just made perfect sence for him to carry our child, this being an experience now gay couple can truely say they had.
We both are thrilled to be able to enjoy this experience together as a gay male couple. However we continue to struggle with finding accepting health care. Even when we went to the emergency room they made me take another pregnancy test, says Scott. People often look at us like we are crazy when we tell them Scott’s pregnant. Instead of offering us helpful advice about pregnancy like they would a women. They gave us information on local abortion services! The battle continues for our family to the point we sought out mid wife services. It just got to the point where we were afraid we would not be able to find any natal care at all. So as a last ditch effort started calling midwives. Luckily we came Across the Art of Birth and Wellness Center, and our now current midwife Kammy. Every time we would call a doctor they would be setting us up an appointment and would ask the reason for the appointment. Of course we told them I was pregnant, and suddenly they would no longer be taking new patients.
That fact is Scott is not the first pregnant man and he certainly won’t be the last. As our society grows and changes, gender norms are going to be challenged. This is one of those situations where if people don’t come out and talk about this experience. That transgendered men are having children and that they and these babies need quality health care. It leaves a open door for discrimination and violence against them.
We are now counting down to our new addition, which is due March 10, 2010
