help with my baby calling me dad. getting grandparents to comply.

[tboyevan]

i live with my parents, i just turned 18 in october. i am in seventh month of pregnancy. i have quite a few risk factors for premature labor (bad dental care, underweight prepregnancy, pregnant under 18, late prenatal care, stress, i'm poor, etc.) so i would appreciate advice as soon as possible

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[beyondbliss]

I can totally understand your stress about this, but keep in mind the baby won't pick up *that* much language before you move out and definitely won't be speaking. Even more importantly, babies associate sounds with the person who makes them...so if you are saying "come to daddy" when you pick the baby up, the baby is going to make the you=daddy connection, no matter what your parents may say.

That said...being an FTM mom is not the end of the world, and your gender doesn't depend on what your baby calls you (even though it may feel like it does). I feel like having my kids call me something other than "mommy" was the biggest mistake I made in transitioning (in my case, they call me by my name---I asked them to when they were 6 and 9). I would take it back in a heartbeat. I'm not saying you should feel the way I do, but I just want to put out there that there are many many valid, different experiences of FTM parenting, and lots of different words we can use for how we identify, including as parents.

All that aside, best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and birth, and a healthy, happy child.

[like_drowning]

I know this is an old comment, but I'm super curious. Why do you feel like it was a mistake to have them call you something other than mommy?