I would not place stock in a donor contract - frankly, when supercute new baby shows up, you don't know how the donor will react, and if they decide they want it, a home insemination with a donor contract will in no way overrule his parental rights. I'm a lawyer (NOT practicing in OR so I am not giving you advice, just info and my experience) and I terminate the parental rights of abusive parents as part of my job. It is actually really hard to do even if there have been years of abuse, neglect or abandonment. Courts take them as a fundamental constitutional right. A donor contract isn't going to protect you at all. This is why I had planned to do a sperm bank (until I met my boyfriend who is apparently Captain Fertility) so I didn't run the risk - the few people I have known who did known donor had a serious scare holding their breath waiting after the birth for the donor to agree to give up his parental rights, and in most all states this can not be done until AFTER the birth. And courts are weird. You do'nt know who the judge would side with based on his view of everyone's "lifestyle."
California has a law where if a man gives his sperm to someone other than his wife for the purpose of insem, his parental rights are automatically terminated but ONLY if it's done via a medical professional. I have heard OR has a similar law, but don't know for sure.
Anyway, good luck - if you can afford a sperm bank, you'd be safer going that way but like the Kommish said, a cheap lawyer referral would be worth your investment too. Under insemination like the CA law, your husband would be the legal father automatically.
At least a few other states besides CA have a similar law with regards to if the known donor donates the sperm and the woman inseminates IN a doctor's office, his parental rights are terminated. This could be a good option to look into for people who are set on using a known donor.
California has a law where if a man gives his sperm to someone other than his wife for the purpose of insem, his parental rights are automatically terminated but ONLY if it's done via a medical professional. I have heard OR has a similar law, but don't know for sure.
Anyway, good luck - if you can afford a sperm bank, you'd be safer going that way but like the Kommish said, a cheap lawyer referral would be worth your investment too. Under insemination like the CA law, your husband would be the legal father automatically.
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