bathhouse virgin
so, i had my first bathhouse experience this past weekend, and will document it here for all who are interested:
after the cut, that is:
I had been talking to this guy I ran into on a cruising website--he was older, and beefy, two of my favorite things, and he had the right reaction my being ftm; that is, he was interested but of the same tenor you'd be at any guy who was slightly differently equipped, and he saw my dick shots and wanted to blow me. He was even begging to blow me.
We probably have been chatting and emailing occasionally since the beginning of the year. Unlike last year when I was excessively needy with possible tricks, this year I have been playing more hard to get, I suppose--and for whatever reason it appears to be working. There is a tremendous amount of blaise-ness in the male-male hook up world, cuz, let's face it, cock is a dime a dozen. Well, anyway you didn't come for my pithy sociological theses, so on with the smut.
He had been asking me to meet him at the local bathhouse and I had been reluctant to, first because of not having the right gender marker on my ID, then after that was fixed just not knowing how i would handle the required nudity of the whole thing. I am pre-surgery and not insignificant up top. The day he wanted to go to the bathhouse was a bear event day; he assured me I would hardly be the only dude there with mantitties (and, really, he was right.) but he also told me i could keep my shirt on.
We met at the subway station and walked to the bathhouse, located prominently in a gay neighborhood. It's one of these sleek, modern, clean(ish) bathhouses with dim industrial lighting and sort of intrusive techno and dance music bumpin' the whole time. My new friend was different than I imagined but not in any off-putting manner. We stopped at his parked car to pick up his bag (and to smoke some), and entered the bathhouse. I immediately wondered if anyone would "know"--ID saying male or not. We stopped to check in and the room he wanted us to share with built in glory holes was in use already. (lesson #1, don't be late--get there early and play all day, since they charge you for 8 hours anyway.) He got a basic room (just a cot and a locker) and I just got a locker ($17 plus $5 membership--sorta pricey for those on a spartan budget.) we were handed keys and towels and the only awkward moment was when i asked for my ID back and the clerk curtly responded that they keep those until check-out. classic n00b error, I'm sure. we found the room after observing some men in towels. though the tops of the rooms were open ended (that is, they had no ceiling per se, just the overarching ceiling of the entire level) it was breezeless and somewhat stifling in the room. Dude (yes, that is how I'm going to refer to him) whipped his clothes off and it didn't take much for me to join him in nudity. We locked our shoes and clothes in the locker. He took a viagra and offered me one. I took it. (it didn't do shit, in case you were wondering, besides give me a headache.)
He had me lie diagonally on the cot and he knelt on the floor and spread me open. His mouth wrapped around my cock blew me greedily like someone who had had to wait 6 months for the opportunity (which he did.) I placed my hands on the back of his head and after a while really got into it, fucking his mouth and bucking against him. He really liked that, and I was kind of propped up and looking at him when he gave me the first of the 24 times he told me I was fucking hot. Soon enough, I came without warning and he roughly shoved a finger in my ass while I was starting to cum. He brought his head up to my mine and he ordered me lick his face clean. We made out some. I pulled on his dick and got him semi hard. He said we should check out the glory hole maze.
Now, he was trying to get me to leave the room with just the towel, but I was already freaked out that I was going to get clocked and ruin the mansex atmosphere for all (ha ha) so I put my shirt back on without the binder and put my briefs and packer back on. I followed him to the glory hole maze and we got in one tiny booth together and latched the door. He kept reaching into my briefs to touch my cock, even as he was looking out the gloryhole and trying to flag down some cock. (flagging down cock is a lot like flagging down a cab.) We waited a while and at one point someone stuck his hand into the glory hole behind me and grabbed my ass. A dude kept teasing us with his dick, and eventually he walked away and a different guy stuck his dick in the gloryhole closest to the dude I was with. We took turns blowing him, and generally when I wasn't sucking I was licking the guy's balls or playing with my dude's dick. That guy wandered away after a while. Dude and I made out more and I played with his nipples some. We both were sweating onto each other. He told me we should go back to the room.
In the room, he wanted to suck and lick me more, which he did, and I came again, hard and screaming. He got out some poppers and did some and offered me some as well. He shoved some fingers in the front hole unexpectedly, and I let him play for a while there but I wasn't really feeling it so I redirected him back to my asshole. I asked him to get out my bag and I went through it to get my buttplug and lube. I had a hard time getting my buttplug in but it felt very very good and once it was in he kept pounding on it like he was fucking me with it. I really should play with my buttplug more because the range of feeling in my ass is something I haven't explored that much. He also played with my feet some, which I liked given my whole foot fetish thing. He wanted to leave the room again and I wanted something to drink so we went back out into the hall. I noticed a gym and a steamroom. One note is while no one said anything to me, I was breaking their dresscode by wearing a shirt. Also, I can't conceivably just get a locker if I go again because I would need somewhere semi private to disrobe and get my shit together--unless I checked in and booked it for some glory holes. It was quite dim in there but there were times I had to swat away hands that I felt were getting to close to roughly grabbing my packy, which I was just packing as is in my briefs without another type of packy harness. I guess I could get back to this processy stuff later.
We found the vending machines and he bought me a diet coke (they didn't have bottled water for some reason) and we did a kind of circuit around the building checking guys out. No one clocked me. We eventually got to a different bank of glory hold booths and he ordered me on my knees to blow him. I sucked him a long time and forced him into the back of my throat a few times, though he wasn't really long enough or hard enough for a throat fucking. He seemed to have some trouble keeping his erection which I wasn't taking personally considering his age and the whole having a viagra prescription thing. He grabbed the back of my head some after he got that I really like that rough handling sort of thing.
We ended up over in this room that had a ramp/trough set up--guys who wanted to be sucked could climb up the incline and stick their dicks under the railing, and suckers could line up in front of them. A screen playing porn was at the front of the room, facing the railing. At some point I stepped on some cum on the floor (sadly my only encounter with it that day) and was just glad I didn't slip on it. LOL. For awhile my friend and I stood around playing with our dicks (I played with my packer through my briefs which was actually awesome for my brain--it just felt right) and after a while some guys walked up the ramp. My friend and I took turns sucking the one guy (i kept trying to figure out if he preferred one or the other's technique more). None of these guys clearly wanted to cum, so after awhile they would pull back and reappear a bit later. An uncircumsized dude took his place next to this first guy and I began working on him. I am totally fascinated by uncircumsized cock and I had a lot of fun playing with his foreskin even in the pulled back state. One problem was both of these guys tasted funny and it took me a while to realize they tasted like latex as in condoms. He bent down and looked at my face and politely *thanked* me for blowing him. Eventually the second guy got behind the first guy and started fucking him--bareback I assume, and my friend had wandered down a bit to blow a different guy, so I continued sucking the cock of the guy getting fucked. He had a rock hard erection throughout. It was extremely hot to feel someone getting pounded as you are blowing him. Eventually though my friend and I were starting to have our energy flag (my jaw was fucking killing me by that point) and we agreed to go back to the room. He told me he wanted me to suck him some again if my jaw could take it. He got on his back on the cot and started playing with his soft dick. I sucked him for awhile, wanting to reward him for showing me a good time and being my guide to this bastion of gay male sexuality, so I focused really hard on his cock. He moaned and asked me how I learned to suck dick like that and I laughed. He said "you've got me rock hard. rock hard" (note: he wasn't, really, but maybe for him he was) and he suddenly wanted to fuck me.
now in the moment i made a choice which perhaps wasn't the smartest thing to do, and I'm recounting this part just to give you the full story. I did let him bareback me--he took out my buttplug and shoved himself in. He got soft pretty quickly and probably wasn't even all the way in (it felt so good though--i've only received anal a handful of times) and it lasted less than a minute. I'm not that worried but am going to get an HIV test next month, as I should anyway. My general rule for myself is that I suck dick without a condom (indeed i see no real point to sucking dick with a condom) and will play with ass and have my junk played with with no barrier. I believe in condoms for front or back hole penetration but sometimes this doesn't play out this way in the moment.
We decided to get our stuff ready to go and we did. We checked out and I got my ID back. Total time inside: 4 hours.
thoughts: I'm not sure it was so worth it for me. Like, this one experience is cool but it's too pricey for me to do that often, also there are a lot of things where nudity is expected and I would probably feel left out if all I could do was sequester myself in a glory hole booth. Also while I understand wanting to hold out as long as possible without cumming, orgasms are a big part of sex for me, and though I myself had 3 or 4 that day, I wanted someone else to have one too. Unless they were all on drugs that made them anorgasmic.
So, I might go again but not more than a couple times per year.
after the cut, that is:
I had been talking to this guy I ran into on a cruising website--he was older, and beefy, two of my favorite things, and he had the right reaction my being ftm; that is, he was interested but of the same tenor you'd be at any guy who was slightly differently equipped, and he saw my dick shots and wanted to blow me. He was even begging to blow me.
We probably have been chatting and emailing occasionally since the beginning of the year. Unlike last year when I was excessively needy with possible tricks, this year I have been playing more hard to get, I suppose--and for whatever reason it appears to be working. There is a tremendous amount of blaise-ness in the male-male hook up world, cuz, let's face it, cock is a dime a dozen. Well, anyway you didn't come for my pithy sociological theses, so on with the smut.
He had been asking me to meet him at the local bathhouse and I had been reluctant to, first because of not having the right gender marker on my ID, then after that was fixed just not knowing how i would handle the required nudity of the whole thing. I am pre-surgery and not insignificant up top. The day he wanted to go to the bathhouse was a bear event day; he assured me I would hardly be the only dude there with mantitties (and, really, he was right.) but he also told me i could keep my shirt on.
We met at the subway station and walked to the bathhouse, located prominently in a gay neighborhood. It's one of these sleek, modern, clean(ish) bathhouses with dim industrial lighting and sort of intrusive techno and dance music bumpin' the whole time. My new friend was different than I imagined but not in any off-putting manner. We stopped at his parked car to pick up his bag (and to smoke some), and entered the bathhouse. I immediately wondered if anyone would "know"--ID saying male or not. We stopped to check in and the room he wanted us to share with built in glory holes was in use already. (lesson #1, don't be late--get there early and play all day, since they charge you for 8 hours anyway.) He got a basic room (just a cot and a locker) and I just got a locker ($17 plus $5 membership--sorta pricey for those on a spartan budget.) we were handed keys and towels and the only awkward moment was when i asked for my ID back and the clerk curtly responded that they keep those until check-out. classic n00b error, I'm sure. we found the room after observing some men in towels. though the tops of the rooms were open ended (that is, they had no ceiling per se, just the overarching ceiling of the entire level) it was breezeless and somewhat stifling in the room. Dude (yes, that is how I'm going to refer to him) whipped his clothes off and it didn't take much for me to join him in nudity. We locked our shoes and clothes in the locker. He took a viagra and offered me one. I took it. (it didn't do shit, in case you were wondering, besides give me a headache.)
He had me lie diagonally on the cot and he knelt on the floor and spread me open. His mouth wrapped around my cock blew me greedily like someone who had had to wait 6 months for the opportunity (which he did.) I placed my hands on the back of his head and after a while really got into it, fucking his mouth and bucking against him. He really liked that, and I was kind of propped up and looking at him when he gave me the first of the 24 times he told me I was fucking hot. Soon enough, I came without warning and he roughly shoved a finger in my ass while I was starting to cum. He brought his head up to my mine and he ordered me lick his face clean. We made out some. I pulled on his dick and got him semi hard. He said we should check out the glory hole maze.
Now, he was trying to get me to leave the room with just the towel, but I was already freaked out that I was going to get clocked and ruin the mansex atmosphere for all (ha ha) so I put my shirt back on without the binder and put my briefs and packer back on. I followed him to the glory hole maze and we got in one tiny booth together and latched the door. He kept reaching into my briefs to touch my cock, even as he was looking out the gloryhole and trying to flag down some cock. (flagging down cock is a lot like flagging down a cab.) We waited a while and at one point someone stuck his hand into the glory hole behind me and grabbed my ass. A dude kept teasing us with his dick, and eventually he walked away and a different guy stuck his dick in the gloryhole closest to the dude I was with. We took turns blowing him, and generally when I wasn't sucking I was licking the guy's balls or playing with my dude's dick. That guy wandered away after a while. Dude and I made out more and I played with his nipples some. We both were sweating onto each other. He told me we should go back to the room.
In the room, he wanted to suck and lick me more, which he did, and I came again, hard and screaming. He got out some poppers and did some and offered me some as well. He shoved some fingers in the front hole unexpectedly, and I let him play for a while there but I wasn't really feeling it so I redirected him back to my asshole. I asked him to get out my bag and I went through it to get my buttplug and lube. I had a hard time getting my buttplug in but it felt very very good and once it was in he kept pounding on it like he was fucking me with it. I really should play with my buttplug more because the range of feeling in my ass is something I haven't explored that much. He also played with my feet some, which I liked given my whole foot fetish thing. He wanted to leave the room again and I wanted something to drink so we went back out into the hall. I noticed a gym and a steamroom. One note is while no one said anything to me, I was breaking their dresscode by wearing a shirt. Also, I can't conceivably just get a locker if I go again because I would need somewhere semi private to disrobe and get my shit together--unless I checked in and booked it for some glory holes. It was quite dim in there but there were times I had to swat away hands that I felt were getting to close to roughly grabbing my packy, which I was just packing as is in my briefs without another type of packy harness. I guess I could get back to this processy stuff later.
We found the vending machines and he bought me a diet coke (they didn't have bottled water for some reason) and we did a kind of circuit around the building checking guys out. No one clocked me. We eventually got to a different bank of glory hold booths and he ordered me on my knees to blow him. I sucked him a long time and forced him into the back of my throat a few times, though he wasn't really long enough or hard enough for a throat fucking. He seemed to have some trouble keeping his erection which I wasn't taking personally considering his age and the whole having a viagra prescription thing. He grabbed the back of my head some after he got that I really like that rough handling sort of thing.
We ended up over in this room that had a ramp/trough set up--guys who wanted to be sucked could climb up the incline and stick their dicks under the railing, and suckers could line up in front of them. A screen playing porn was at the front of the room, facing the railing. At some point I stepped on some cum on the floor (sadly my only encounter with it that day) and was just glad I didn't slip on it. LOL. For awhile my friend and I stood around playing with our dicks (I played with my packer through my briefs which was actually awesome for my brain--it just felt right) and after a while some guys walked up the ramp. My friend and I took turns sucking the one guy (i kept trying to figure out if he preferred one or the other's technique more). None of these guys clearly wanted to cum, so after awhile they would pull back and reappear a bit later. An uncircumsized dude took his place next to this first guy and I began working on him. I am totally fascinated by uncircumsized cock and I had a lot of fun playing with his foreskin even in the pulled back state. One problem was both of these guys tasted funny and it took me a while to realize they tasted like latex as in condoms. He bent down and looked at my face and politely *thanked* me for blowing him. Eventually the second guy got behind the first guy and started fucking him--bareback I assume, and my friend had wandered down a bit to blow a different guy, so I continued sucking the cock of the guy getting fucked. He had a rock hard erection throughout. It was extremely hot to feel someone getting pounded as you are blowing him. Eventually though my friend and I were starting to have our energy flag (my jaw was fucking killing me by that point) and we agreed to go back to the room. He told me he wanted me to suck him some again if my jaw could take it. He got on his back on the cot and started playing with his soft dick. I sucked him for awhile, wanting to reward him for showing me a good time and being my guide to this bastion of gay male sexuality, so I focused really hard on his cock. He moaned and asked me how I learned to suck dick like that and I laughed. He said "you've got me rock hard. rock hard" (note: he wasn't, really, but maybe for him he was) and he suddenly wanted to fuck me.
now in the moment i made a choice which perhaps wasn't the smartest thing to do, and I'm recounting this part just to give you the full story. I did let him bareback me--he took out my buttplug and shoved himself in. He got soft pretty quickly and probably wasn't even all the way in (it felt so good though--i've only received anal a handful of times) and it lasted less than a minute. I'm not that worried but am going to get an HIV test next month, as I should anyway. My general rule for myself is that I suck dick without a condom (indeed i see no real point to sucking dick with a condom) and will play with ass and have my junk played with with no barrier. I believe in condoms for front or back hole penetration but sometimes this doesn't play out this way in the moment.
We decided to get our stuff ready to go and we did. We checked out and I got my ID back. Total time inside: 4 hours.
thoughts: I'm not sure it was so worth it for me. Like, this one experience is cool but it's too pricey for me to do that often, also there are a lot of things where nudity is expected and I would probably feel left out if all I could do was sequester myself in a glory hole booth. Also while I understand wanting to hold out as long as possible without cumming, orgasms are a big part of sex for me, and though I myself had 3 or 4 that day, I wanted someone else to have one too. Unless they were all on drugs that made them anorgasmic.
So, I might go again but not more than a couple times per year.