Which Is Most Important to You?
Here's a question for all you MTF's out there in the community.
What is more important to you, sexual reassignment or facial feminization?
Many of us can only afford one or the other in a reasonably short time frame (or hell, sometimes neither...this stuff is expensive). Some people find complete self-acceptance in the fact that their body from the neck down matches up with their mental gender, irregardless of how others perceive us. "Self-acceptance" is obviously the most important thing and the term most touted left and right amongst transgender communities. Others see facial feminization surgeries as a must; they accept that they do desire to be as stealthy as possible within the target gender they aim to transition to, and see facial feminization as a priority. Is one side of this coin necessarily better than the other?
Obviously what people choose to do is highly dependent on many factors. Sometimes, hormones are all that is needed for some people to pass, and they decide that SRS will be the primary target of their investments. Some people decide that passing is the priority and that SRS can wait until FFS is completed. Some people are just happy not necessarily "passing" and completely content that they pass their own internal gender test. They feel female, and sometimes that's enough. It's amazing how different and unique we all are, and yet we share common goals.
I fall into the middle category, with caveats. I want to pass before anything else. SRS is not a priority for me. It's not that I'm happy with what I have; it's more of a profound indifference. I don't think about it. Being post-op would be ideal, obviously. I'd feel complete. But I would feel worse in general knowing that people don't see me as the gender that I am. Again, I know...self-acceptance. Still, it's important for me to be accepted as female by those around me, and I don't think that's a bad thing. I've only been on hormones for a month and a half (and I'm not going full-time until the end of the year probably), so I'm willing to wait to see if hormones do the trick alone (I'm still young too; I keep forgetting that). Otherwise, I'm saving for FFS now, just in case.
So, what are your views on this?
With lots of love,
Teegan Jane
What is more important to you, sexual reassignment or facial feminization?
Many of us can only afford one or the other in a reasonably short time frame (or hell, sometimes neither...this stuff is expensive). Some people find complete self-acceptance in the fact that their body from the neck down matches up with their mental gender, irregardless of how others perceive us. "Self-acceptance" is obviously the most important thing and the term most touted left and right amongst transgender communities. Others see facial feminization surgeries as a must; they accept that they do desire to be as stealthy as possible within the target gender they aim to transition to, and see facial feminization as a priority. Is one side of this coin necessarily better than the other?
Obviously what people choose to do is highly dependent on many factors. Sometimes, hormones are all that is needed for some people to pass, and they decide that SRS will be the primary target of their investments. Some people decide that passing is the priority and that SRS can wait until FFS is completed. Some people are just happy not necessarily "passing" and completely content that they pass their own internal gender test. They feel female, and sometimes that's enough. It's amazing how different and unique we all are, and yet we share common goals.
I fall into the middle category, with caveats. I want to pass before anything else. SRS is not a priority for me. It's not that I'm happy with what I have; it's more of a profound indifference. I don't think about it. Being post-op would be ideal, obviously. I'd feel complete. But I would feel worse in general knowing that people don't see me as the gender that I am. Again, I know...self-acceptance. Still, it's important for me to be accepted as female by those around me, and I don't think that's a bad thing. I've only been on hormones for a month and a half (and I'm not going full-time until the end of the year probably), so I'm willing to wait to see if hormones do the trick alone (I'm still young too; I keep forgetting that). Otherwise, I'm saving for FFS now, just in case.
So, what are your views on this?
With lots of love,
Teegan Jane