Formal wear and dress codes
I was researching some possible things to do with my partner for a big celeberation, and a few things required black tie or other levels of formal wear.
My partner is genderqueer; they're read as different genders depending on the context but don't consistently 'pass' as anything. I'm a trans man; when I was early on in my transition, what I thought was typical business or formal attire was seen by other people as crossdressing.
So what is a non-binary person to do about formal wear? How about if you're visibly trans? What kind of reactions have people gotten for wearing the 'wrong' sort of formal wear? Can somewhere with a gendered dress code really police what you wear based on your apparent assigned sex?
My partner is genderqueer; they're read as different genders depending on the context but don't consistently 'pass' as anything. I'm a trans man; when I was early on in my transition, what I thought was typical business or formal attire was seen by other people as crossdressing.
So what is a non-binary person to do about formal wear? How about if you're visibly trans? What kind of reactions have people gotten for wearing the 'wrong' sort of formal wear? Can somewhere with a gendered dress code really police what you wear based on your apparent assigned sex?