Informing my doctor
Okay, I'm in an icky, painful dysphoric state at the moment, so I'm going to try and channel it into something useful.
I'm 17 years old, FTN, pre-name change, pre-medical transition and in the middle of social transition, in therapy for gender and other stuff. I live with my parents, who I'm out to; they're supportive but still feel like it's just a stage. Everyone calls me by my preferred name but parents won't let me legally change it until I'm 18 (provided they make good on that and don't make me wait until I leave the house.) So they're also in charge of all my medical things.
I've just switched to a new doctor recently, and the first time I went I tried to see if the people at the desks could put my preferred name in the records somehow. They irritatedly made sure I was called in by it, but the next time I went it was my legal name. I'm pretty sure the doctor knows my preferred name, but he doesn't know that I'm trans, as he referenced "ladies" a couple of times. I find that really painful to hear, so I'm wondering if I should explain that I'm trans and ask him to not use those terms....basically, if anyone has any suggestions for whether or not I should do this and what the best way to go about it is, I would be really grateful.
I'm 17 years old, FTN, pre-name change, pre-medical transition and in the middle of social transition, in therapy for gender and other stuff. I live with my parents, who I'm out to; they're supportive but still feel like it's just a stage. Everyone calls me by my preferred name but parents won't let me legally change it until I'm 18 (provided they make good on that and don't make me wait until I leave the house.) So they're also in charge of all my medical things.
I've just switched to a new doctor recently, and the first time I went I tried to see if the people at the desks could put my preferred name in the records somehow. They irritatedly made sure I was called in by it, but the next time I went it was my legal name. I'm pretty sure the doctor knows my preferred name, but he doesn't know that I'm trans, as he referenced "ladies" a couple of times. I find that really painful to hear, so I'm wondering if I should explain that I'm trans and ask him to not use those terms....basically, if anyone has any suggestions for whether or not I should do this and what the best way to go about it is, I would be really grateful.