Panic Attack

[banshee1067]

I'm breathing heavy and keep grasping myself...I'll grab my forearm in a grip and fold in on myself. What's happening to me? I started sweating all over and now here I sit, frustrated, wiping sweat off my face as I type and try to stave this off

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[next_adventure]

I know you're hurting, and when you're hurting it's difficult to see things from a different perspective.

Your height is something you will not be able to change. Later on you can experiment with hairstyles, clothing, and shoes that do not accentuate your height. I'm short, and therefore avoid wearing horizontal stripes, for example. Another option would be to move to a place that has lots of tall women, like Scandinavia. I could move to Malaysia and be an average height guy, as an example.

About the height, your acceptance will cue others on how to take it. If you bring negative attention to the fact that you are taller than most women, others will notice it more and in a negative way. For me, I just say I'd be a better caver or jockey than basketball player. Our attributes all have good and bad points. You can reach stuff on the top shelf, I'm better at crawling into the cabinets to clean the back corners.

Shoulders will soften if you choose to take hormones. You'll become less muscular and will develop a layer of fat underneath your skin. When your body fat shifts, your frame will have a more hourglass figure than before, even though your skeleton has not changes. Clothing and style will be helpful again on this one. With a little style, you'll do just fine.

Tall women have trouble meeting people as well. There's a club for tall people, Sky High Club, maybe? You would find women to commiserate with about all the short men that hit on you.

You were dealt the hand that you were dealt. If transitioning is right for you, then do what it takes to make it happen. The required therapist can help you decide if transitioning is right for you and/or help you come up with a plan to make it happen.

Some things you can control. It'll probably be a lot, but there's laser for whatever hair hormones don't thin out. Wigs for the hair. If you can afford it there's breast implants, lipo, facial feminization, endless possibilities of things you can do to your body to help bring it in line with what's in your head.

First though, and this is key, you have to accept yourself. Love yourself. You have to have the I'm a good person. I'm taking what I have and making the most of it. attitude.

How many people out there -for whom transitioning was truly the right thing- regret transition? I can't think of one person I've talked to who said "If I'd have known it would be like this, I wouldn't have done it."

With the girls, just look at a different type of girl if you want a different response.

Good luck, and do check into local resources for some face to face contact.

[banshee1067]

Can't experiment with my hair, since my shit genetics caused me to start losing it when I was 17...another major reason I'm ugly.

I tried dating tall women. They just liked my size even more because, finally, THEY got to be the small one. There is nothing good about being tall, and I could give a fuck about reaching shit on high shelves. Get a ladder.

[banshee1067]

Well, like a fucking dumbshit, I hit the send button before I was even done, hence the unintended rudeness of my last sentence.

Look at my pic. i'd make a horrible woman. I don't even merit being an attractive guy.