I'm breathing heavy and keep grasping myself...I'll grab my forearm in a grip and fold in on myself. What's happening to me? I started sweating all over and now here I sit, frustrated, wiping sweat off my face as I type and try to stave this off
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the other is that you are in chicago now and there has to be someplace you can go with all this: a support group, a therapist, somebody who has experience with bodily dysphoria and can help you strategize how best to live with the body you have or change it into something you'd rather have. that's not an either/or choice, either: there are a number of approaches a person can take towards body modification.
I just don't think the internet is the place that is going to find peace for you. I mean, unless you use it to look up face-to-face resources that can take you on individually and wholly. here you are text and a few pictures and I can see you are in a tremendous amount of pain, but I can't imagine what else I or anyone on lj can do for you other than nod our heads in recognition, make what suggestions we can, and hope for the best. I think you'd have a better chance at happiness if you arranged some hands-on (so to speak) encounters with people who have professionally dealt with this sort of thing. chicago's a big place. there's bound to be someone.
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A support group is not going to help me. Sitting around with a bunch of other losers whining about how unfair their own lives are is only going to make me feel worse by association. Besides, getting a hug from a stranger and being told that my feelings are "okay" is only going to make me feel like a fool.
Once I get a job, I'll probably go to a therapist, but I'm not optimistic. I've seen many in the past, and was always the same..most of the time it was just decent conversation. In all fairness, there is little they can do. I mean, what do you tell a guy who says "I'm 6'3", broad shouldered, and bald....but I don't want to date girls who want a big manly guy?" It just plain doesn't make sense.
"Rock Against Drugs. That's like Christians Against Christ. Rock CREATED drugs."
- Sam Kinison
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There are tons of people that don't like their bodies for lots of reasons, as this community knows full well. Do what you can, accept what you can't, and move on. That's all one can do.
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I don't want anyone to accept me. I quit dating a year ago and I wouldn't be happy to meet a girl who told me I looked great just as is. Why would I want that? i want a girl with taste, not someone who has to stoop to dating some big bald ugly loser like myself. Shit, if I were a girl, I wouldn't give myself the time of day either.
Right now, I'm despairing over doing anything. All I can think of is to just get drunk (and I'm not even wild about alcohol) to bring myself to an even lowlier, angrier, and more depressed state.
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Are you healthy?
What's the lifespan of your mom, dad?
Their parents?
I refuse to have issues with how I look, tending to focus on how I feel.
You need to do the same.
You'd be surprised at what happens once it does.
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Maybe you don't care how you look, but I do. How we look is a lot more important than people like to give credit for. It angers me to know that I'm never ever going to look good. It hurts me, especially since the few random buttplugs who find me attractive always mention my size first and then extrapolate about how I can "protect them" and how I make them "feel smaller". The LAST thing I want is to make someone else feel smaller...to me, that's akin to saying "I like being around you because you're ugly, and I look better by comparison."
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The problem is that I can't alter how I look, not dramatically, anyway. Basically, I don't want to be big, bald, or broad shouldered...I know i'm fucked on my height.
I want to change it because I find it unattractive and I don't like people noticing my size.
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how would changing your size change the relationships you have or want to have in a good way for you? that is a deeper and potentially more important question and imo the kind of question you need to start asking yourself.
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Maybe you don't care how you look, but I do.
Well then, I guess you're screwed.
Live with it how you choose.
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The same way you wanted to all the other times you've done this.
I KNEW I read similar posts from you in the past.
You need a therapist.
Not warm fuzzies from other trannies.
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