Radical concept
Day two of my poly exploration:
So I'm onto Chapter 4 of the "ethical slut" language. And a thought just occurred to me while reading- What if I didn't seek a partnership? Would I be happy if I just had multiple relationships that weren't "couple-centrist". Dossie and Catherine are right- the individual is whole already, I am a fundamental sexual unit by myself. I don't need to find the "other half" so why then look for a partnership? When I say partnership I don't mean companionship, I mean a "couple" status. I can achieve true, satisfying and loving companionship without being in a "couple". Now how does this relate to my earlier post about wanting a girlfriend and a boyfriend and the fact that I threw around the word "couple" quite a few times? It's strange but I think I just realized that the term "girlfriend/boyfriend" is a couple-centrist label. There's nothing wrong with being in a couple or having a boy/girlfriend- I just want to stray away from wanting or really believing that the only way to find a sustainable loving and satisfying relationship is to be in a couple. I think I need to establish a relationship with myself before even trying to begin a partnership with other people.
go figure huh?
So I'm onto Chapter 4 of the "ethical slut" language. And a thought just occurred to me while reading- What if I didn't seek a partnership? Would I be happy if I just had multiple relationships that weren't "couple-centrist". Dossie and Catherine are right- the individual is whole already, I am a fundamental sexual unit by myself. I don't need to find the "other half" so why then look for a partnership? When I say partnership I don't mean companionship, I mean a "couple" status. I can achieve true, satisfying and loving companionship without being in a "couple". Now how does this relate to my earlier post about wanting a girlfriend and a boyfriend and the fact that I threw around the word "couple" quite a few times? It's strange but I think I just realized that the term "girlfriend/boyfriend" is a couple-centrist label. There's nothing wrong with being in a couple or having a boy/girlfriend- I just want to stray away from wanting or really believing that the only way to find a sustainable loving and satisfying relationship is to be in a couple. I think I need to establish a relationship with myself before even trying to begin a partnership with other people.
go figure huh?