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[shenth]

From last week's Savage Love:

"Do you think post-op transgender people have any obligation to tell their lovers they were once the other sex?"
On The Fence

"Yes."

We have an "obligation" now? Oh, how wonderful, yet another thing that's expected of us and not cissexuals. There are some good reasons for disclosure under certain circumstances, but "an

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[catamorphism]

I wrote a poll about this.

[catamorphism]

Is there any answer to that that won't cause you to flame me some more?

[kynn]

You could probably apologize and recant, and if you do it well, gender_euphoric probably won't flame you more.

[catamorphism]

Until tomorrow.

[kynn]

/worldstiniestviolin

Maybe tomorrow you could stop using "tranny" as a slur against trans women you don't like.

See if that works for ya!

[catamorphism]

That's true, I could.

[kynn]

But you won't, will you?

(Is this going to get me called a "tranny" too?)

[catamorphism]

When I'm not talking to a friend with whom I have years of context, then no, I won't use the word "tranny". And already don't.

[kynn]

funny, i thought we're talking about a public comment you made out on the internet, not a little backroom conversation with your buddy where you joke about HAR HAR THOSE TRANNIES.

i guess it's sorta like how some people think it's okay to toss around racial slurs if there are only white people present, right? and then when you start using them in public, when POC really are present, you go BUT I WASNT TALKING TO YOU, right?

[catamorphism]

I guess you could think it's sorta like that, if you'd enjoy thinking that.

[kynn]

If I enjoy thinking that, are you going to run off in private and call me a "tranny"? Maybe even a "tranny bitch" or something?

[catamorphism]

Have you stopped beating your wife yet?

[kynn]

Hey, that's cute. I see what you did there -- subtly denying my gender while maintaining a flimsy air of plausible deniability. Nice, although not as subtle as you may think.

[catamorphism]

I wasn't aware that having a wife has anything to do with being a particular gender? Can you clarify?

[kynn]

*pats you on the head*

Get a better hat.