I finally stuck up for myself.
B"SD
hi xxxx
we never got to talk about my experience of your show in ny.
i need to tell you that it was a huge shock for me to see these images of my pre-transition torso nude for all to see on the internet.
if you had asked me, i never would have consented to their use. the last i heard of them they had been destroyed.
as a result, i have felt renewed complications to trying to trust you and trying to understand your allegiance to transpeople.
if i had not seen it, i would have been confronted with the pictures, in front of a crowd of people.
i think it was not a sensitive choice on your part. I really want to experience this differently, and if you can explain to me, i would be glad to change my thoughts on this. I just dont understand how not telling me about the reprint of these nude, pre transition images is ok. How is this an act of solidarity even....You only mentioned it to me just before the opening, and what could i do at that point.
i didnt know how to tell you about this because confrontation is not what i want. i dont know what our relationship consists of at this point, apart from a debt of some cash and many deep and fond memories. I want to be able to have a contemporary relationship with you, but its really hard when trust is broken down. respectfully, i dont know what your approach is, but i always ask the people who have been nude or sexual in my work before showing in the town where they live, or may have family, etc. Its an important aspect of my part of the deal, out of respect, on so many levels.
i really wish you all the best in your work. I am proud and happy for you. And I feel very sad about certain choices.
I hope you can try to understand how i can feel both at the same time.
hi xxxx
we never got to talk about my experience of your show in ny.
i need to tell you that it was a huge shock for me to see these images of my pre-transition torso nude for all to see on the internet.
if you had asked me, i never would have consented to their use. the last i heard of them they had been destroyed.
as a result, i have felt renewed complications to trying to trust you and trying to understand your allegiance to transpeople.
if i had not seen it, i would have been confronted with the pictures, in front of a crowd of people.
i think it was not a sensitive choice on your part. I really want to experience this differently, and if you can explain to me, i would be glad to change my thoughts on this. I just dont understand how not telling me about the reprint of these nude, pre transition images is ok. How is this an act of solidarity even....You only mentioned it to me just before the opening, and what could i do at that point.
i didnt know how to tell you about this because confrontation is not what i want. i dont know what our relationship consists of at this point, apart from a debt of some cash and many deep and fond memories. I want to be able to have a contemporary relationship with you, but its really hard when trust is broken down. respectfully, i dont know what your approach is, but i always ask the people who have been nude or sexual in my work before showing in the town where they live, or may have family, etc. Its an important aspect of my part of the deal, out of respect, on so many levels.
i really wish you all the best in your work. I am proud and happy for you. And I feel very sad about certain choices.
I hope you can try to understand how i can feel both at the same time.