The break-up journal I mentioned?
A friend just wrote to me - thank goodness! - to say that she felt a little awkward reading my commentary on that break-up journal when I may not know the whole story...turns out my concerned (and smart) friend guessed wrong as to the journal I referenced.
It wouldn't be appropriate for me to name the journal in this forum, but to rule out the same mistake among common friends, let me say this -- the LiveJournal author is a woman. I think that will clear up the same mistake happening again.
And to futher elaborate on the point, I guess I can understand the usefulness of dedicating a journal to healing from hurt. I am sad to read about someone hurting so badly that they dedicate much of their energy to being hurtful. I can understand that sort of anger only too well, really. Someone posted a Comment on this line of thought though later deleted it that brought up a good point: "Time heals all wounds." Not if they're reinjured, picked at, or neglected and not treated properly in the first place. Food for thought. It's an easy cycle to fall into to think that anger will burn away pain, that revenge (in any form but "living well") will speed the healing process. It doesn't, of course.
Now I digress. I guess I felt the need to clarify what makes me sad is not that I pity someone pain -- it's natural and everyone feels it. I pity someone her anger. It's natural, too, but far more unpleasant, I think. When she gets to a stage where she feels only pain and not the anger anymore, then she'll start healing. All this makes me sad because of personal reflection, of course. I'm just leaving the Angry stage with the subject of my bitter haiku foo. It leaves me asking, "Now what?"
Anyway, all this was a good lesson in voicing concerns rather than nurturing grudges! I hope I cleared things up.
Traceroo
It wouldn't be appropriate for me to name the journal in this forum, but to rule out the same mistake among common friends, let me say this -- the LiveJournal author is a woman. I think that will clear up the same mistake happening again.
And to futher elaborate on the point, I guess I can understand the usefulness of dedicating a journal to healing from hurt. I am sad to read about someone hurting so badly that they dedicate much of their energy to being hurtful. I can understand that sort of anger only too well, really. Someone posted a Comment on this line of thought though later deleted it that brought up a good point: "Time heals all wounds." Not if they're reinjured, picked at, or neglected and not treated properly in the first place. Food for thought. It's an easy cycle to fall into to think that anger will burn away pain, that revenge (in any form but "living well") will speed the healing process. It doesn't, of course.
Now I digress. I guess I felt the need to clarify what makes me sad is not that I pity someone pain -- it's natural and everyone feels it. I pity someone her anger. It's natural, too, but far more unpleasant, I think. When she gets to a stage where she feels only pain and not the anger anymore, then she'll start healing. All this makes me sad because of personal reflection, of course. I'm just leaving the Angry stage with the subject of my bitter haiku foo. It leaves me asking, "Now what?"
Anyway, all this was a good lesson in voicing concerns rather than nurturing grudges! I hope I cleared things up.
Traceroo