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Ah, a dear friend of mine asked something very intriguing and thoughtful considering my last post about choice and homo/bisexuality. Basically the question was, since the argument was more from a bisexual's view, what about the straight(snicker)-out homosexuals? Aaaaaaaaaaaaaand, that was a tweet, but my reply went overboard. I'm sorry, sweetie. T___T
This is what I replied.
@Jagi_saurus a choice is always hard to make, when the options are both important. For a straight-out homosexual, it's definitely a lot harder. I was luckier than most people, for one I didn't have the problem of being biased against homosexuals in the first place since I was raised fairly open-minded or at least, not scared of things I don't understand. So my coming out was easy. Also, I love boys too much to give up on them, hence my bisexuality XDDD Anyway, what I mean is, the choice is made easier for me because at least I still have a chance at true love or something like that. A straight out homosexual doesn't.
But the argument still remains the same. It's just a matter of choosing what is more important to you. For me, I actually didn't even think about the fact that I could still fall back on boys--I might as well have been lesbian while I was writing that post ^^;; The main point of my argument is why you're making a choice at all. For some people, they can't bear to give up their religion, like me. For others, they can't bear to be homosexual. That's why they have to think over which of the two, if it's that situation that is (because the NaNo post was about religious homophobia, hence the religious notes), would make them happier in the long run, and then choose.
So, yes, it's hard. But like I said, the concept is the same. If homosexuals think they'll be happier embracing themselves, then they should definitely go for it. If they think they want to comply with their religion and, for lack of a kinder phrase, stop their supposed 'sin', then they should do that. In the end, it's entirely a matter of what they believe. The people who stopped being friends with me because they couldn't accept my decision believed that one's own happiness is the ultimate thing we need to achieve in life.
It's not that I don't agree. Happiness is definitely something to be achieved, but I believe a little differently. In my religion, it's said that things that are forbidden in life will be allowed in the afterlife. It's not 100% confirmed, but then again, if it's the afterlife, then there wouldn't be much need for rules, would there? Anyway, it's believed that happiness in this life will be secondary to the happiness that we'll experience in the afterlife, which is why I can sacrifice this one thing that could make me very happy, for the sake of eternal happiness for when I die.
Cutting it a little too close to a religious rant, my point is still the choice of which is more important. In the end, whatever you choose should be the one that make you happiest, and that applies to whoever it is, whether bisexual or homosexual or even trans. If you're not happy after making your choice, then probably you made the wrong one. It's really up to the person making the decision to fully understand themselves and figure out what they believe. Only then will they be able to make the right choice.
Ah...I ranted again. Sorry, Eevie-bb. <<;;
This is what I replied.
@Jagi_saurus a choice is always hard to make, when the options are both important. For a straight-out homosexual, it's definitely a lot harder. I was luckier than most people, for one I didn't have the problem of being biased against homosexuals in the first place since I was raised fairly open-minded or at least, not scared of things I don't understand. So my coming out was easy. Also, I love boys too much to give up on them, hence my bisexuality XDDD Anyway, what I mean is, the choice is made easier for me because at least I still have a chance at true love or something like that. A straight out homosexual doesn't.
But the argument still remains the same. It's just a matter of choosing what is more important to you. For me, I actually didn't even think about the fact that I could still fall back on boys--I might as well have been lesbian while I was writing that post ^^;; The main point of my argument is why you're making a choice at all. For some people, they can't bear to give up their religion, like me. For others, they can't bear to be homosexual. That's why they have to think over which of the two, if it's that situation that is (because the NaNo post was about religious homophobia, hence the religious notes), would make them happier in the long run, and then choose.
So, yes, it's hard. But like I said, the concept is the same. If homosexuals think they'll be happier embracing themselves, then they should definitely go for it. If they think they want to comply with their religion and, for lack of a kinder phrase, stop their supposed 'sin', then they should do that. In the end, it's entirely a matter of what they believe. The people who stopped being friends with me because they couldn't accept my decision believed that one's own happiness is the ultimate thing we need to achieve in life.
It's not that I don't agree. Happiness is definitely something to be achieved, but I believe a little differently. In my religion, it's said that things that are forbidden in life will be allowed in the afterlife. It's not 100% confirmed, but then again, if it's the afterlife, then there wouldn't be much need for rules, would there? Anyway, it's believed that happiness in this life will be secondary to the happiness that we'll experience in the afterlife, which is why I can sacrifice this one thing that could make me very happy, for the sake of eternal happiness for when I die.
Cutting it a little too close to a religious rant, my point is still the choice of which is more important. In the end, whatever you choose should be the one that make you happiest, and that applies to whoever it is, whether bisexual or homosexual or even trans. If you're not happy after making your choice, then probably you made the wrong one. It's really up to the person making the decision to fully understand themselves and figure out what they believe. Only then will they be able to make the right choice.
Ah...I ranted again. Sorry, Eevie-bb. <<;;