Let's start writing and see where this ends up.
I don't believe in monogamy. There it is.
I don't believe that it's natural for a man to stay in a committed relationship with just one woman. That's not to say that men can't, won't or don't do it. I have thought about this for a very long time over a period of many years and I don't think that this is something that should be required from men. I just don't believe that most men ...are hardwired to be with just one woman(and I have to use the term "most men" for those rare ones out there that love the woman they are with and wouldn't dare even look in a different direction. I do realize I am generalizing, but there will be a point to it eventually.) . I think it's the testosterone or something that tells them they need to experience everyone and everything. I have asked this question from several men, married and monogamous, married and cheating, married and has cheated, men with girlfriends...I think all of the above and I get the same answer.....They agree that it's not natural, but they fight the urges and they make the decision to not do it, or in the case of the "cheater" they run with their temptation.
Now for the bad news..We as women ARE most definitely hardwired to be with just one man..we don't always get to choose that man. We don't always get to choose who we fall in love with. I realize with this post I have now set in motion a huge panic among my friend's list and anyone else out there reading who knows me. No, Mike has not cheated, again....I'm just putting a starting point out there and going with it..I guess you could call it literary vomit right now. I've suppressed my feelings for a long time and I'm tired of holding them in. Moving on....
When Mike and I first got together..it was under the mutual understanding that this would just be a fling. It's now over 2 years later and it has become a real relationship, through all of the ups and downs of what we have been through we have fought through it all, and we are still together. He and I made a promise in 2006 that we would be exclusive, that we wouldn't hurt each other and we would build our relationship together. We have both kept that promise...and we are moving on. You can judge him all you wish, but if you do, I deserve to be judged the same way and just as harshly, but understand we have each other's backs and for all the judgment in the world, you will not be the one to tear us apart. It will be a decision for he and I to make if that day ever comes. We both made some big mistakes and have paid for them in exorbitant amounts, with interest ...and here we are...full circle. I'm only saying this because I will be talking about him in my journal from time to time, you don't have to like Mike, but you do get to read about him unless you choose to put me out of your misery. No, it's not natural for Mike to be with just me, but he has made the decision to do it and and I'm happy I have stayed because things are at a good place now.
I'm starting with this because I'm doing something in the next few months that could be good or bad, who knows...but I have to try.
I don't believe that it's natural for a man to stay in a committed relationship with just one woman. That's not to say that men can't, won't or don't do it. I have thought about this for a very long time over a period of many years and I don't think that this is something that should be required from men. I just don't believe that most men ...are hardwired to be with just one woman(and I have to use the term "most men" for those rare ones out there that love the woman they are with and wouldn't dare even look in a different direction. I do realize I am generalizing, but there will be a point to it eventually.) . I think it's the testosterone or something that tells them they need to experience everyone and everything. I have asked this question from several men, married and monogamous, married and cheating, married and has cheated, men with girlfriends...I think all of the above and I get the same answer.....They agree that it's not natural, but they fight the urges and they make the decision to not do it, or in the case of the "cheater" they run with their temptation.
Now for the bad news..We as women ARE most definitely hardwired to be with just one man..we don't always get to choose that man. We don't always get to choose who we fall in love with. I realize with this post I have now set in motion a huge panic among my friend's list and anyone else out there reading who knows me. No, Mike has not cheated, again....I'm just putting a starting point out there and going with it..I guess you could call it literary vomit right now. I've suppressed my feelings for a long time and I'm tired of holding them in. Moving on....
When Mike and I first got together..it was under the mutual understanding that this would just be a fling. It's now over 2 years later and it has become a real relationship, through all of the ups and downs of what we have been through we have fought through it all, and we are still together. He and I made a promise in 2006 that we would be exclusive, that we wouldn't hurt each other and we would build our relationship together. We have both kept that promise...and we are moving on. You can judge him all you wish, but if you do, I deserve to be judged the same way and just as harshly, but understand we have each other's backs and for all the judgment in the world, you will not be the one to tear us apart. It will be a decision for he and I to make if that day ever comes. We both made some big mistakes and have paid for them in exorbitant amounts, with interest ...and here we are...full circle. I'm only saying this because I will be talking about him in my journal from time to time, you don't have to like Mike, but you do get to read about him unless you choose to put me out of your misery. No, it's not natural for Mike to be with just me, but he has made the decision to do it and and I'm happy I have stayed because things are at a good place now.
I'm starting with this because I'm doing something in the next few months that could be good or bad, who knows...but I have to try.