New around these parts.
Hi there. Yep, another new face coming out to introduce herself, and to ask a question or two. First, the obligatory "how bi am I" explanation. ;)
I'm 39 and for most of my teen/adult life I've identified myself as straight. Not because I was positive of it, but because I was raised in a small Australian country town and to be gay or bisexual was unheard of. I did, however, have dreams about having sex with women sometimes and when I started having sex myself, I discovered that the penis didn't really do it for me. I also had a very tomboyish attitude, got out with guys better than girls as friends and tended to get called "lezzo" (insulting name for 'lesbian') at school a lot.
I got into a serious relationship with a guy when I was 18, just starting college. I'd taken a couple of tentative steps towards even thinking about the possibility I wasn't as straight as I had thought I was, but I'm extremely monogamous within a relationship and so all possibilities evaporated. This relationship lasted for twelve years and messed me up in more ways than I can explain right now. It was then, in my thirties and emotionally wrecked, that I a) discovered the joys of oral sex, b) made out with a woman for the first time at a party and c) found myself attracted to various female friends and acquaintances, and realised that perhaps the "straightest woman in the universe" as a lesbian friend had called me once, perhaps wasn't.
Now, here's my question. Where does a 39-year-old woman, living in a foreign country (I'm Australian, but I've lived in Toronto, Canada for four years) and newly accepting of her bisexuality, go for support and/or to meet people? I've tried online, but the only groups suitable for someone like me (who has no "gaydar" to speak of) haven't been updated since last year. I'd like to figure out more about my sexuality and perhaps find a "safe" place to ask questions and exchange stories and the like, without feeling like I'm being trendy or something.
Thanks in advance and hi!
(crossposted to bisexual_world
I'm 39 and for most of my teen/adult life I've identified myself as straight. Not because I was positive of it, but because I was raised in a small Australian country town and to be gay or bisexual was unheard of. I did, however, have dreams about having sex with women sometimes and when I started having sex myself, I discovered that the penis didn't really do it for me. I also had a very tomboyish attitude, got out with guys better than girls as friends and tended to get called "lezzo" (insulting name for 'lesbian') at school a lot.
I got into a serious relationship with a guy when I was 18, just starting college. I'd taken a couple of tentative steps towards even thinking about the possibility I wasn't as straight as I had thought I was, but I'm extremely monogamous within a relationship and so all possibilities evaporated. This relationship lasted for twelve years and messed me up in more ways than I can explain right now. It was then, in my thirties and emotionally wrecked, that I a) discovered the joys of oral sex, b) made out with a woman for the first time at a party and c) found myself attracted to various female friends and acquaintances, and realised that perhaps the "straightest woman in the universe" as a lesbian friend had called me once, perhaps wasn't.
Now, here's my question. Where does a 39-year-old woman, living in a foreign country (I'm Australian, but I've lived in Toronto, Canada for four years) and newly accepting of her bisexuality, go for support and/or to meet people? I've tried online, but the only groups suitable for someone like me (who has no "gaydar" to speak of) haven't been updated since last year. I'd like to figure out more about my sexuality and perhaps find a "safe" place to ask questions and exchange stories and the like, without feeling like I'm being trendy or something.
Thanks in advance and hi!
(crossposted to bisexual_world