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So A and I have differing views on how one should treat so-called "toxic" people. My view is that you dont try to shut them out of your life, you have to learn to be around them and accept them/their energy. You have to be kind and love them. You shouldn't judge them at all. Dont force or flaunt your "wisdom", light and or positivity on them as that will usually breed a volatile situation. Sometimes it's best to be kind instead of right.
"Sometimes being understanding is more important than being right... Sometimes we need not a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens... Not keen eyes that always see faults but open arms that accept... Not a finger that points out mistakes but gentle hands that lead."
^That's what I'm trying to practice.
There were nearly a handful of instances of psychological projections so&so made but I said nothing. There were misuses of words and contradictory statements being frequently made, and instead of trying to correct or point them out to so&so, I mostly just listened and focused on the actual topic being discussed. I see these little things so&so does that indicate that they're aware of their misuse of words and contradictive statements, but they continues on repeating things several times until it sounds right in their own head and I sort through the clutter and try to understand the actual point(s) so&so is trying to communicate. I think it would drive most people insane having to listen to so&so. I actually find it weird how I once saw "grace" in them, like they're the one that unintentionally or indirectly taught me that word and gave meaning to it by embodying it and yet now so&so is often just a bundle of emotions that often overflow and just reacts and rides the emotions without much thought. Like if I'm not extremely careful with my words they'll just react and blurt out their feelings without thinking. It doesnt matter if I'm in middle of a sentence I'll get cut off. Of course they'll deny it and would accuse me of the same thing, and I'll admit I'm guilty of doing it as well, but that doesnt make it right or justify the behavior, nor is it productive to do so.
It's strange how if I had the same definition of what toxic is and believe the same as they do, that I should separate myself and shut toxic people out of my life, I would start by eliminating so&so from my life. My feelings are far too often dismissed and ridiculed by them. I barely am able to speak my mind and be fully listened to without intent to respond. If I have anything else that isnt positive or complimentary to their being or behavior it is not welcome. They wish to have a bubble of positivity surround them and comfort them as they feel it would be beneficial to their soul's progress/evolution. I know that doesnt make sense but to them it does. How do one grow when in a safe comfortable bubble that doesnt offer any challenges to them? In order to grow you have to step out of your comfort zone, you have to face challenges. Dealing with a wide variety of personalities(both positive & negative) in life is essential to growth. Selectively choosing only positive people who only compliment you does not bring about any growth other than your own ego.
I'm not sure if I actually got to writing what i had intended to write here. either way I'll update more later.
Please excuse my typos in this post.
"Sometimes being understanding is more important than being right... Sometimes we need not a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens... Not keen eyes that always see faults but open arms that accept... Not a finger that points out mistakes but gentle hands that lead."
^That's what I'm trying to practice.
There were nearly a handful of instances of psychological projections so&so made but I said nothing. There were misuses of words and contradictory statements being frequently made, and instead of trying to correct or point them out to so&so, I mostly just listened and focused on the actual topic being discussed. I see these little things so&so does that indicate that they're aware of their misuse of words and contradictive statements, but they continues on repeating things several times until it sounds right in their own head and I sort through the clutter and try to understand the actual point(s) so&so is trying to communicate. I think it would drive most people insane having to listen to so&so. I actually find it weird how I once saw "grace" in them, like they're the one that unintentionally or indirectly taught me that word and gave meaning to it by embodying it and yet now so&so is often just a bundle of emotions that often overflow and just reacts and rides the emotions without much thought. Like if I'm not extremely careful with my words they'll just react and blurt out their feelings without thinking. It doesnt matter if I'm in middle of a sentence I'll get cut off. Of course they'll deny it and would accuse me of the same thing, and I'll admit I'm guilty of doing it as well, but that doesnt make it right or justify the behavior, nor is it productive to do so.
It's strange how if I had the same definition of what toxic is and believe the same as they do, that I should separate myself and shut toxic people out of my life, I would start by eliminating so&so from my life. My feelings are far too often dismissed and ridiculed by them. I barely am able to speak my mind and be fully listened to without intent to respond. If I have anything else that isnt positive or complimentary to their being or behavior it is not welcome. They wish to have a bubble of positivity surround them and comfort them as they feel it would be beneficial to their soul's progress/evolution. I know that doesnt make sense but to them it does. How do one grow when in a safe comfortable bubble that doesnt offer any challenges to them? In order to grow you have to step out of your comfort zone, you have to face challenges. Dealing with a wide variety of personalities(both positive & negative) in life is essential to growth. Selectively choosing only positive people who only compliment you does not bring about any growth other than your own ego.
I'm not sure if I actually got to writing what i had intended to write here. either way I'll update more later.
Please excuse my typos in this post.