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[togodbetheglory]

Hey! I love Jesus!
Pray for me I've had a full schedule with RA training. But God is good! And I love Jesus!
Amanda, I won't be able to pick you up from the airport... I'm sorry. My car isn't working. :o( but I look forward to seeing you! I love you darling! OK I go sleepies now...
Jade when are you coming back?

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[skeily_anne]

Rachel... i don't think i know your email. so i will write this here. i just found out about all the goings-on between you and lizzy in the past few days. i just wanted to write you... i know that it is difficult for you to understand how to interact with lizzy. i just don't understand some of what you do though. i know that lizzy is not in the right in how she treats you necessarily. but why do you not listen to her? do you understand that your way is not necessarily the best way? that you are not necessarily the only person that can help/love her right? can you accept that maybe you've hurt her more than done good for her? i know that God wants you to love lizzy, but did it not occur to you that perhaps the most loving thing you could have done, starting a long time ago, would have been to actually listen to what lizzy said, and maybe, just maybe believe that she could be in the least little bit right. no, she is not right to hate you, or to act the way she does toward you... but this is the only way that she knew to not hate you more. she has not enjoyed hating you. i have been along for the ride, and i can tell you that it has caused her more pain than anything else. she is trying to deal with this and get through it. but the best way to recovery is not necessarily to bombard her with the little things that bother her about you. if she had asked you not to do something, it was not a whim, but a plea of desperation that you not cause her to stumble more in being so bothered by you. the fact that you kept doing those little things without any regard to what she was asking of you, was what made her slip more. and yes, perhaps she could have not slipped with more self-control... but the fault is not all hers. can you not admit that maybe you do not know the best way to show her love? if what you were doing, in those small things that irritated her, was causing her to stumble, then that should never have been there. brothers and sisters in christ do not cause each other to stumble simply because they feel that that is the best way to show them they are loved. it is like a person who is easily turned on sexually. you do not simply go up and hug them and hang all over them because you feel like that is the best way to show them love. you must take into account that other person, who they are, what they feel, and what they feel toward you. the best way to show a person love varies so widely, you cannot simply act in the way you think is best, and be surprised at a negative reaction. there are two sides involved in love. you must consider that other side, that other person. you must try to understand and sympathize with them, not simply pity them and do what you want to make them feel loved. if what you think is showing them love is in fact doing them harm, then you must stop. do you think it is God's will that you make lizzy be so bothered by you that it develop into hatred? we are to love each other, deeply, yes. but that love can manifest itself in different ways. sometimes it may be the most loving thing to simply leave them alone. you are not the only person that God works through. you loving lizzy right now, i believe, is to let her be, to leave her alone, and actually respect what she asks of you. she does not ask you to leave her alone simply on a whim. she asks it because she means it. that is what she needs right now. i am sorry it went as far as it did. i wish i had told you sooner, and there would have been less hurt, both for you and for lizzy.

[togodbetheglory]

Hey Shelly, I just wanted to let you know I read your reply today. I haven't checked my e-mail for a while or been on LJ until today.

[togodbetheglory]

I didn't reply to what you wrote before because I didn't feel ready. I was wondering if you would talk to me about it. I know you communicate better writing. I communicate better talking... Whatever you need to do, let me know.

[skeily_anne]

rachel, i don't need to do anything. your response is up to you. i wrote you what i did to try and help you. so i hope it does help you in some way. beyond that, there is nothing left for me to do. if you want to tell me your thoughts about what i said, that's up to you. my part in all this is done.