We have a date!tlew12778June 25 2005, 17:54:33 UTC
We officially set the date today - April 21, 2006 at 4PM.
I thought this would be more exciting, but instead it's just anticlimactic. So much debate has gone into this date that it's just a relief it's done. Just another thing checked off the list.
The priest was very laid back. I can't decide if I think he's strange or not. I kind of feel like he's just not totally comfortable in his new position yet (I think he's been pastor there for less than a year and he was formerly down in Perugia so he's new to Milan as well). Anyway, his basic comments were: 1) We're old. Just kidding. He meant that we're mature enough to be making this decision on our own. He said he gets couples that are really young and is always concerned that they are not getting married by their own free-will. 2) It's important that a) we love each other and b) we remember that marriage is forever 3) It's important to remember that the point of marriage is to have a family (this actually kind of surprised me bc it seems a little narrow minded in my opinion). He flat out said it was not about the "spiritual union" bc that can be obtained outside of marriage. 4) He doesn't really care that we already live together although he's glad we're making it legal.
He said we should get our pre-cana done this fall then bring him the certificate. At that point he will give us a list of other documents he needs (both from our churches as well as from city hall).
I thought this would be more exciting, but instead it's just anticlimactic. So much debate has gone into this date that it's just a relief it's done. Just another thing checked off the list.
The priest was very laid back. I can't decide if I think he's strange or not. I kind of feel like he's just not totally comfortable in his new position yet (I think he's been pastor there for less than a year and he was formerly down in Perugia so he's new to Milan as well). Anyway, his basic comments were:
1) We're old. Just kidding. He meant that we're mature enough to be making this decision on our own. He said he gets couples that are really young and is always concerned that they are not getting married by their own free-will.
2) It's important that a) we love each other and b) we remember that marriage is forever
3) It's important to remember that the point of marriage is to have a family (this actually kind of surprised me bc it seems a little narrow minded in my opinion). He flat out said it was not about the "spiritual union" bc that can be obtained outside of marriage.
4) He doesn't really care that we already live together although he's glad we're making it legal.
He said we should get our pre-cana done this fall then bring him the certificate. At that point he will give us a list of other documents he needs (both from our churches as well as from city hall).
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