you had to go there

[tkn1114]

and talk like Obama
but did you have to summon Neruda?

Hell's Kitchen Journal: I Want To Be A Sex Object

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[bix02138]

Mixner-and I, for that matter-is who he is, and there's no changing thatSo why even imagine change? Why wish for something that would never come true but only risk destroying our already fragile vulnerability which others may cherish?

At the end of the day, if we allow what Harold said to Michael in Boys of the Band stand as the only truth, then the entire gay lib movement will have not only failed, but failed miserably.

You may misapprehend my meaning. I'm saying Mixner may wish to be a head-turner, but that-in the way he wants it-is simply not going to happen in this culture. I stuck myself in there because, in honesty, who hasn't wished to have their attributes culturally-sanctioned, if even for just a fleeting moment. I'm not suggesting that I want to be someone I'm not. I love myself and my packaging, and, honestly, have never lacked for attention.

I'm not at all sure Mixner has the same appreciation for himself as I have for myself: the prevailing wind in western/northwest atlantic/queer male culture(s) is to be blond(e), ripped, young and hung, and it clearly doesn't blow in Mixner's direction-or in most folks'.

not even in our culture which posits that everything about the human form is capable of being changed to fit an imagined landscape.We shall not use that observation, however true in many instances, as the eternal excuse not to fight the vacuous culture we live in and so rightly accuse to change it.

N'est-ce-pas?

You are loved - by me - as how you look and who you are. Voila! C'est tout. It's as simple as that. Like homosexuality, life is complicated because we often make it complicated.

I don't use it as an excuse to not fight; rather, I see it, in some respects, as the fight: we, in all our variety, are the reproach. That the culture ultimately peddles unhappiness and death (in which it colludes seamlessly with politics and religion) makes the struggle that much more pressing.

Yes, mais oui: life is complicated because we often make it complicated.

[tkn1114]

I don't use it as an excuse to not fight; rather, I see it, in some respects, as the fight: we, in all our variety, are the reproach. That the culture ultimately peddles unhappiness and death (in which it colludes seamlessly with politics and religion) makes the struggle that much more pressing.

So we agree.

I hope you realize that I wrote the post in tongue-and-cheek because I love David, even if I would like to see him bolder in some issues I feel are important. I don't think he has any illusions.

For the record, I do not care to be blond, although I am acceptably ripped (as opposed to obsessively ripped), reasonably young because always young-at-heart and hung whenever the opportunity arises :-.D

Thankfully, we've grown up to discover that there is so much more to life than ghey ideals?

Anecdote
Tennessee Williams, Queen of the complicated, once quipped when asked by a producer why he wrote plays that seemed so complicated: "Because PEOPLE are complicated!". Quite. This must be why Zen was invented. Probably at the same time queens were invented :-/D

Va!