the rabbit speaks much truth

[tkil]

http://www.rabbitblog.com/Only those with the courage to present their full, flawed selves to someone else get to have the kind of love that people write songs about. The rest, the ones that would prefer to hide, to borrow other people's things, to stay out of reach, to foster illusion, are

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[deliriumdreams]

I finally got around to reading the rabbit. And yes, that quote is particularly painful. It's easier to show the people we care about our good qualities and play down our "bad" ones. But I think she's right and that if we bare our flaws, rather than hiding parts of ourselves, we can find people who love us not inspite of our flaws, but because of them. (And no, that doesn't mean I'm all that comfortable exposing them for all to see, especially not all at once.)

But I think the quote that hit home even more so for me was from the person who wrote in...

I tell myself that he KNOWS I love him. This dude can read me like a flashcard. He must know it.

It sounds so much worse when she wrote it than it does in my head. "Of COURSE he knows how I feel, he's a bright boy. DUH!" It's so much easier to assume someone knows how I feel, that I don't have to talk about it. I don't think it's the powerplay rabbit talks about. (Although I have been very very very guilty of that in the past.) I can over intellectualize and rationalize and say that the word love is so over used in our culture that saying them to another person can be trite and meaningless. But of course I have no problem saying "I love you" to jettdelirium. (Granted it took years to get there and she did say it FIRST.) But really, I think I'm just generally uncomfortable talking about any real emotions. As a matter of fact, it's easier for me to talk about emotions here or in an IM then it is face to face with someone. I wonder what the rabbit would say about that.