Building Mr. Right
Probably spurred on by the approaching holiday, a friend of mine who believes herself to be the consumate matchmaker of all time told me that I needed to send her my laundry list of 20 "ideal man for me" traits. (I suspect she's been reading some sort of go-out-and-git-yerself-a-man book.) So, for the sake of getting her off my back for a while, this is what I sent:
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper.
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor.
7. Someone who likes to travel.
8. Someone who is spiritual, but not dogmatically religious. (Pagan tendencies are a definite plus.)
9. Someone who is not in therapy...of any kind.
10. Someone who has a semi-normal relationship with their parents, or who is an amazingly well-adjusted orphan.
11. Someone who likes to be outdoors and do outdoorsy things: e.g. gardening, camping, fishing, swimming, etc.
12. Someone with all their teeth or reasonable facsimiles thereof.
13. Someone who would be willing to relocate. I've moved enough...I'm staying here.
14. Someone who wants to buy an old barn and convert it into a house.
15. Someone who likes to ride horses.
16. Someone who is kind to animals and people.
17. Someone who loves living in the country but likes to visit the city.
18. Some liberal arts background would be nice, but not absolutely necessary.
19. Someone who earns about the same or more than me.
20. Someone who is optimistic and good-natured.
So I'll let her do the looking for me...most days I'd be happy just to find a man to take the trash out every other day...but a gal's gotta have standards. ; )
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper.
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor.
7. Someone who likes to travel.
8. Someone who is spiritual, but not dogmatically religious. (Pagan tendencies are a definite plus.)
9. Someone who is not in therapy...of any kind.
10. Someone who has a semi-normal relationship with their parents, or who is an amazingly well-adjusted orphan.
11. Someone who likes to be outdoors and do outdoorsy things: e.g. gardening, camping, fishing, swimming, etc.
12. Someone with all their teeth or reasonable facsimiles thereof.
13. Someone who would be willing to relocate. I've moved enough...I'm staying here.
14. Someone who wants to buy an old barn and convert it into a house.
15. Someone who likes to ride horses.
16. Someone who is kind to animals and people.
17. Someone who loves living in the country but likes to visit the city.
18. Some liberal arts background would be nice, but not absolutely necessary.
19. Someone who earns about the same or more than me.
20. Someone who is optimistic and good-natured.
So I'll let her do the looking for me...most days I'd be happy just to find a man to take the trash out every other day...but a gal's gotta have standards. ; )