Dear Garry

[tinuviel]

Your birthday has popped up in my diary while my book on Narcissists recommended writing letters to your ex, which combined into this. Not that I think you are a narcissist or any of the other diagnosis's that exes like to pile on. I do think you have narcissistic tendencies, but most of us do. What I do think is that you live through your partners. You are void yourself and as a result desperate for someone to fill that void. Your largest need is that of being a hero without work. You need validation and drama. I was never going to give you that and what annoys me most these days is that we were together for so long and I wasted my last healthy years on you. I also can not tell you how amazing it is to be with the right person. I thought I was the problem and relationships just were like that, but I was SO wrong. I am not constantly angry. I am not constantly frustrated. Me and my partner are a team. He is excited with me when it comes to funky ideas. We share so much. So much that you hated or just tried to absorb to make yourself look good to others. He likes reading my books. He likes my pets. He understands my illness and takes an active part. I didn't even know these things were an option!

I hope you will be happy, but I am pretty sure you never will be. I also hope that gambling habit that is making you feel like a hero, is under control. Okay, that is a lie. I am sort of hoping you will bankrupt yourself. I am not that nice a person.

Miriam